my review of the year 2021

I have been going to the brothel in Liverpool called Angel Lodge. I saw Katy, Taylor, Alicia and Lucia once each, but I saw Megan 3 times. She is the sort of big blonde that I like and she lets me use my ultrathin condoms. I have only been to Christys once this year.

I went to Manchester once this year, but it's not as good as it was. Cosmopolitan is still good though.

In the summer I found myself near Queensferry in Wales. I remembered that there is a brothel there. I found the number through a Google search on my mobile. When I went there I was pleasantly surprised. It's a nice place (called Dollys) and the sex worker there was lovely. I thought I was onto a good thing.

Pippa is very talkative and seems to want to please. She is a big blonde like Megan and Jodie. She is prettier though, and I liked the way she has her hair up. The first time I saw her she said I can bring thin condoms next time. I saw her three Mondays in a row.

Although she seems to want to please, she didn't seem to want to do the one thing that I want. I like to get on top of a woman and shag her till I come. She let me shag her for a while but then wanted to do something else. So I didn't orgasm with Pippa.

The second two times I saw Pippa I went afterwards to another brothel in Wales. Temptations in Flint. These two brothels are not difficult to get to by bus from Chester. At Temptations I shagged Lola. She didn't talk much, didn't seem to want to please me, but was quite happy for me to get on top of her and shag her till I came. Even though I didn't ask to use my thin condoms with Lola, I came both times with her.

There is a strange brothel in Wallasey called Jays. If you go there on a Wednesday there are two women there. One of them is an old woman called Celia but also called Sharon. The other is Keira and I think she has a different name too. Keira looks middle aged but is probably elderly too: she looks as if she has had some cosmetic surgery. Celia and Keira work together. If you want both of them to suck your cock, at the same time, you can have that. Without a condom if you pay both of them an extra £10.

I saw them twice this year. The second time was very odd. Celia was her usual helpful self but Keira was preoccupied. She stood in the same room as us but looked out the window, commenting about a man who would be returning soon. I think there is a pimp here who is in the room above and watches through the mirrors on the ceiling. I asked them to turn a light on, they told me they were unable to comply, but later the light came on by itself. I'm not going to go there again.

Talking about old women, I saw Diane and Jackie in Chester. Diane has a flat near the racecourse and Jackie uses a friend's house in Bache near the hospital. I won't be going to see either of them again either. All of the women that I have mentioned so far in this post have been English, or possibly Welsh. I say this because some people believe that the majority of women in brothels are Romanian. "Leicestershire police reported that 86% of the women in brothels they visited were Romanian". Not near me.

I will be going to Rock Ferry Thai Massage again though. I saw a lovely woman called Jasmine in January. I saw a delightful young woman called Joy twice recently. I would have seen her a third time but I was told she'd gone. To Manchester. They are there for a couple of weeks then they go to work somewhere else. Then they come back again.

There is another Thai woman who works nearby. Her name is Yaya. She doesn't move to different places. She is pretty and speaks English very well and seems educated. She shares the flat with another Thai girl who only does massage with hand relief. Her name is Maeya.

Maeya only does hand relief. Yaya does full sex but doesn't move to different parts of the country. Joy and the other women at Rock Ferry Thai Massage do full sex and move around. That will be through their own choices, how much money they wish to make and what they are prepared to do for it.

Usually at Thai massage places you don't get full sex. At Rock Ferry Thai Massage you do though. Another place I have been to is Sakura in Liverpool. You don't get full sex there (not usually) but you do get more than just a massage with hand relief. With some of the women at Sakura. I've been there four times this year, but I don't think I will return. Another Chinese place is the newly opened Pink Peony.

So I won't be seeing any old women again. You may wonder why I ever did but some of them are attractive. I don't think I will be going to Wales again, why bother when I can get what I want closer to home? I don't even need to go into Liverpool. My favourite two women this year have been Jasmine and Joy from Rock Ferry Thai Massage. I hope to see both of them again.

my porn experiment

In my last post I wrote that Sara Pascoe is very fair on the subject of pornography but not so much on the subject of prostitution. The Oxford Professor Amia Srinivasan is the opposite though. She has written that internet porn sites control what people see, 'bringing their sexual tastes into conformity'.

"As Shira Tarrant, author of The Pornography Industry, observes: 'If you are interested in something like double oral, and you put that into a browser, you're going to get two women giving one guy a blowjob ... you're not likely to get two men or two people giving a woman oral sex' She adds: 'Online-porn users don't necessarily realize that their porn-use patterns are largely moulded by a corporation.'"

People who are anti porn will just believe this, as Amia seems to have done. I though decided to see for myself, and the results were quite interesting. I typed 'double oral' into Google and was presented with twenty images. I chose to look at images rather than videos because my wifi doesn't allow me to look at PornHub or the main video sites. I could have seen a tiny picture of each video in Google search but in my experience it's not so easy to assess the content of the videos from just a tiny pic or even from the title.

By the way, I have managed to circumvent this censorship. I have found a site which not only can I look at with my wifi but I can download videos from. It is called porntrex.com. You can't download from PornHub now, as I reported a few posts back. I have downloaded lots of videos featuring beautiful Japanese women. I don't have a thing for East Asian women, I have a thing for beautiful women: for some reason the most beautiful women appear in Japanese porn. I would love to interview Kotomi Asakura and ask her about her life.

Getting back to my porn experiment, eight out of the twenty pictures that I saw when I Googled 'double oral' were of two women and one man. Seven showed two men with one woman. Two of them were indistinct. One of them showed two gay men. One of them showed two men and a 'shemale'. One of them was two women giving oral sex to another woman.

And if you don't believe me, try it for yourself. You probably won't get exactly the same results but you can see that what porn critic Shira Tarrant wrote is nonsense. It isn't true that it's all the same. There is enormous diversity. Men's sexual desires aren't being 'moulded by a corporation'. What is presented has been moulded by people's desires. Heterosexual, homosexual, trans, cis.

They say that porn is ubiquitous in modern society. In one way it is, although I can't access PornHub. In another way it isn't, because it seems that so many people haven't looked at it. If they had, they wouldn't say the stupidest things about it. They are convinced that it is all violent. Society has become sexualized, so they say.

I wish I could show you all of the pictures but I don't want this blog to show pornographic images. I will show you the one where the two women give oral sex to another woman. You can't see anyone's genitals or breasts. You can see pubic hair though, some people believe that it's never seen in porn - people who have never seen it. Some people will be disgusted and horrified but I think it's quite sweet.

There's a film, Cinema Paradiso, where at the end a compilation of censored bits of films are shown. They are of people kissing and so on. It shows life, it shows joy, it shows passion.

sex work and the transgender issue

I've been reading a lot about trans issues recently. What got me started was I realized that there is a chapter in Shon Faye's book about prostitution. She is a trans woman and her book is The Transgender Issue. She is in favour of the decriminalization of prostitution, as am I.

This blog is about sex work so I'm not going to write much about the trans issue, except in how it relates to prostitution. I can see both sides of the debate. I have also read Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier and Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality by Helen Joyce. Both of these are authors oppose trans 'ideology'. The second of them is a Radical Feminist.

What annoys me about the Radical Feminists is how they want to reinvent themselves as the guardians of free speech. On the final page of her book Joyce writes "It will take a renewed commitment to two interests shared by everyone in a secular, liberal democracy: freedom of belief and freedom of speech".

They're only saying this now because they have been on the receiving end of treatment that they have been handing out for decades. Consider this, from Amia Srinivasan's book The Right to Sex.

"In 1993 a group of anti-porn feminists wrote a letter to the vice chancellor of the Australian National University demanding that an invitation to US pro-sex feminists, including Gayle Rubin and Carol Vance, be rescinded. One of the signatories was Sheila Jeffreys, a central figure on the 'revolutionary feminist' wing of the British women's liberation movement, which insisted - contrary to the then dominant socialist feminist position - that male sexual violence, rather than capitalism, was the foundation of women's oppression. In recent years Jeffreys has decried the 'vilification' and 'censoring' of feminists who, like her, are trans-exclusionary. Jeffreys apparently does not recognise the irony in objecting to the same tactics that she and other anti-porn feminists pioneered forty years ago." 

What goes around comes around. I suspect that in the future this will happen to them again. They might think that their scheming with the religious right has paid them dividends, but the mums who don't want a trans girl in their daughters' school toilets can just as easily say they don't want a lesbian girl there. Someone who says that a man can't become a woman, it's only politeness that has stopped us from saying it before, can just as easily say that homosexuality is a perversion and a mental illness.

Sheila Jeffreys is a lesbian, she thinks women should be lesbians. Do think that ordinary people can distinguish between a trans person and the sort of radical feminist lesbian who has short hair, no makeup and wears men's clothes? If the transgender movement is an ideology then Radical Feminism is one too: two rival ideologies fighting it out for the hearts and minds of people - and especially teenage girls.

In Chapter 7 of Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality, Joyce writes this:

"But from the 1990s or so, liberal or 'third wave' feminism de-emphasised such structural and communal issues, instead centering choice and agency - for example arguing that some women might want to work in pornography or prostitution, and that this could be empowering. Second-wave feminists, who mostly regarded these as harmful for all women and almost always coerced, were dismissed as 'sex-negative' - or simply prudes."

I think someone who chooses to believe that women who work in pornography or prostitution are 'almost always coerced' without any evidence for that are indeed prudes. They don't like it, so they think up a reason why they should oppose it, harming women in the process. They don't like it for the same reason their religious right allies don't like it - a fear and disgust of basic human sexuality. If you choose to believe something without evidence, that is not reality it is ideology.

If you believe that prostitutes are almost always coerced then you want them to be rescued. But 'rescue' means women abducted by police and kept against their will. That is harming women.

Third wave or pro-sex feminists are termed liberal, and it is said they have no interest in 'structural and communal issues'. It was Jeffreys though who was the first to take feminism in a direction away from its socialist and anti-capitalist roots. As Amia Srinivasan wrote in her book:

"At the ninth Women's Liberation Movement Conference, this time held in London, Sheila Jeffreys gave a paper titled 'The Need for Revolutionary Feminism', in which she took socialist feminists to task for not recognising that male violence rather than capitalist exploitation lay at the foundation of women's oppression, and for making 'reformist' demands like socialised childcare."

Amia is anti-capitalist. Sheila Jeffreys doesn't represent the original feminism, from which third wave feminism departed. Feminism didn't originally have the obsession with pornography and prostitution that people like Jeffreys, MacKinnon and Dworkin introduced.

Third wave feminists have not argued that 'some women might want to work in pornography or prostitution'. They argue that large numbers of women do. How can we help them? As far as I know they have never used the word 'empowering'. Money is empowering. Sex work is well paid. So from that point of view it is empowering, although maybe the Radical Feminists mean something different by that word. Being a politician or a CEO is empowering in a different way. Sex work doesn't give you that but then neither does most work.

Harmful for all women? Joyce doesn't say why she thinks that, but it brings us back to the false research that I wrote about a couple of posts ago. They think that there is more rape when there is more pornography and prostitution. Which brings us back to Sara Pascoe's book that I reviewed even more posts ago. Pascoe states that the evidence that she has looked at does not show that pornography increases rape (page 198) or sexism (page 200); or that most porn is violent (pages 204, 224 and 226). She also says it isn't true that women in porn don't have pubic hair (ignore what Jenni Murray says). Pascoe is very fair on the subject of pornography. Not so much on the subject of prostitution.

I've just listened to Jon Ronson's radio programme about trans issues, part of a series called Things Fell Apart about the culture wars. He talked about the Michfest music festival in America for women that started in the 1970s. What he said about it is completely different from what Helen Joyce has written about it in Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality (chapter 8). Joyce makes no attempt to show both sides of the debate, for example not saying that transwomen were eventually welcomed into the festival by the other women: Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality seems to me a work of propaganda.