tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88288205340144469922024-03-14T11:45:12.033+00:00Secret Diary of a Street GirlWhen this blog began it was about my experience of prostitution in South London and Soho. Now it is mostly about my experiences in North West England.Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.comBlogger247125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-36773269728219783392024-02-11T11:36:00.001+00:002024-02-11T11:54:39.991+00:00statistics from Sweden<p>I have found more statistics that show that the Nordic model in Sweden is failing. I have put all the relevant information from surveys in Sweden on <a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/p/statistics-from-sweden.html">this page</a>. I hadn't realised that there was a survey in 2017. I knew about the surveys in 1996, 2008, 2011 and 2014.</p><p>In 1999 Sweden introduced a law (the 'Nordic model') that criminalises men who pay for sex. We have statistics from before and after the law about the proportion of Swedish men who pay and the proportion of Swedish women who are paid for sex. There were many more women who stated in the 2017 survey that they had been paid for sex than in any of the other surveys. In 2017 it was 1.5%. In 1996 it was 0.3%.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinmXZj9QGc2JlgPFhCAySIxRjM2B52gr97AK7PUWR0hREfF4Eoe3_gs-ON4yU_R8Xi5L8q6pEKwr97QP4i27LkFrt9umSkhWan5Shyphenhyphen7FAWaGs35SOGu9vRbh1vAdCP1EpdLCwiXUu23X4MaJhrJM8L04mYhG6JPdq3OL0jFnDjJVMKu1u_odSvAEdHSfCo/s835/2017.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="835" data-original-width="589" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinmXZj9QGc2JlgPFhCAySIxRjM2B52gr97AK7PUWR0hREfF4Eoe3_gs-ON4yU_R8Xi5L8q6pEKwr97QP4i27LkFrt9umSkhWan5Shyphenhyphen7FAWaGs35SOGu9vRbh1vAdCP1EpdLCwiXUu23X4MaJhrJM8L04mYhG6JPdq3OL0jFnDjJVMKu1u_odSvAEdHSfCo/s320/2017.jpg" width="226" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-67950564205231230262023-12-10T13:50:00.007+00:002023-12-10T13:50:54.379+00:00younger woman<p>Since my last post I have been back to Wales a few times and seen new women. I have seen Samantha at Dollys in Queensferry and Brooke and Jade at Temptations in Flint. Samantha is an old woman but nice. Brooke and Jade are younger and tried hard to make me happy.</p><p>Each of these I have seen once. I have told you about Naomi and Leila at Temptations and Candy at Dollys. I have seen these three several times throughout the summer and autumn. I liked them all. I also saw Nicole once at Temptations.</p><p>I don't think I will be going back to Wales though. Something happened to me recently. I phoned Rock Ferry Thai Massage and was told that they have two new young women working there. I wanted to see them, usually they have older women there.</p><p>I had a choice of two young women when I went there on Friday. The one I chose was called Soda, or something like that. In the room I asked her how old she is. She said twenty eight and asked me how old I thought she looked. I said eighteen. If she had told me she was eighteen I would have believed her.</p><p>Soda has a pretty face and a lovely figure with medium size breasts. Her hair is dark brown and she has a couple of small tattoos on her legs. She is of medium height.</p><p>I used to think that my ideal woman is about 40 and a bit plump. That was before I met Soda. I think she is every man's dream. She is my dream now too.</p><p>Some people will say that when a man visits a sex worker he has preconceptions about he will like. These preconceptions may come from pornography. He may select the sort of woman that he has seen in porn and want to perform particular acts.</p><p>That may be true of many men but not with me. There are many young women in porn of course but older women too. Slender women and also plumper. In the room with Soda any preconceptions I had were changed. I didn't think I would enjoy being with a younger woman but being with Soda changed that.</p><p>I enjoyed my half hour with Soda so much that I came back the next day and paid £100 for an hour with her. It had to be yesterday because she will be working in Blackpool next week. It will be at 23 Cookson Street.</p><p>My first time with Soda I had no problem getting an erection. She let me use one of my thin condoms and I came quite quickly. That is because I found her so attractive. After I came it didn't take long before I got an erection again. She told me that if I had stayed for an hour I could have come twice.</p><p>So yesterday I had sex with her again, had an orgasm, then got another erection soon after. I shagged her again but wasn't able to come a second time. That's not surprising - I have never had two orgasms within one hour, not even when I was young.</p><p>We did a wider range of things yesterday. She has two sex toys. One of them is a clitoral stimulator. The other seems to be like the lovense toy. It has something resembling a flower at one end and she held it against her pussy. She was really enjoying it and had an orgasm. Some of the time I had two fingers in her vagina.</p><p>I would call her an enthusiastic amateur. She told me she lives in the south of England but has come up north to work with her friend. She doesn't usually do anything except massage and she said she will return to that.</p><p>Yesterday she was tired and hungry. She said that she had been with her friend to a casino in Blackpool the night before. She told me it was good, she had won some money. I hope that things work out for her. I wish I had met someone like her when I was eighteen.<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEga8mw0peHUyZ0TRwsVSTzvjnL2NvpbxRLq6_HZyZlmWRRJT0Zv8LeeU9-ls3iWOUAhziiAQt1Ey5aaGmeQrezqT0tjUwp-bfIEhRxUXNb9ibdg7sSZj92zPb31wJBkWzKkWfrHioJAJ4SpXCxWkp753gZHotOivFTIH1m0iipuBTtP399bVSWv0H81su9C/s1362/Photo0023.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="941" data-original-width="1362" height="276" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEga8mw0peHUyZ0TRwsVSTzvjnL2NvpbxRLq6_HZyZlmWRRJT0Zv8LeeU9-ls3iWOUAhziiAQt1Ey5aaGmeQrezqT0tjUwp-bfIEhRxUXNb9ibdg7sSZj92zPb31wJBkWzKkWfrHioJAJ4SpXCxWkp753gZHotOivFTIH1m0iipuBTtP399bVSWv0H81su9C/w400-h276/Photo0023.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">seen in window of new Thai massage place in Chester</td></tr></tbody></table><br /></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-10695371695831581352023-10-27T12:21:00.001+01:002023-11-03T15:33:19.868+00:00sexy Wales<p>For a lot of the summer I was going to Wales every Tuesday. I went to a brothel in Flint called Temptations where I saw Naomi. She told me that her usual day is Tuesday. She's very nice so I thought that I can see other women that day but she'll be there if I want her.</p><p>I had seen her years before. Some Tuesdays she wasn't there and I saw Leila instead. In many ways I prefer Leila. Another one I saw is Nicole. Leila and Nicole are friends and they drive from Manchester or somewhere to work in this brothel in Wales.</p><p>I liked Nicole, but she's not very attractive. She looks like someone out of a Beryl Cook painting. She wanked herself to orgasm while I put two fingers in her vagina. Just like Marina in Amsterdam earlier this year. None of these women are young, with Nicole looking the oldest.</p><p>Naomi and Leila are very talkative. Naomi told me that young women aren't so attracted to working in a brothel. That is the reason brothels are dying out. I had a very interesting conversation with Leila about the woman who ran the Sandy's Superstars brothels in Manchester - <a href="https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/married-couple-behind-sandys-superstars-15770154">Sandra Hankin</a>. She said that Sandra was prosecuted because she didn't pay taxes on her earnings, although I'm not sure if it is possible for people like her to pay taxes in the normal way.</p><p>So it got me thinking that maybe there are fewer brothels now because young women don't want to work in brothels. It's not that the police have closed them down. Young women usually prefer to work from a flat and advertise online. I thought they do that because it is illegal for them to work together. They avoid the possibility of arrest.</p><p>There are advantages to women working together, either in a brothel or in a less formal arrangement. Safety, for example. Perhaps they feel safe enough working on their own. Although I think they often have someone else there in the flat with them.</p><p>I have also been going to another brothel in Wales, Dolly's in Queensferry. I saw Candy there. I thought that I might have seen her before. The next time I saw her I said were you Lucy at The Office in Ellesmere Port. She was amazed that I could remember her as it was years ago. Candy is very raunchy. She likes to snog and laughs a lot.</p><p>I had a little joke with her that I had first seen her years ago in the street near to a brothel in New Ferry. I wondered if she was a prostitute so I followed her back to the brothel. When I saw her going in then I knew she was one. Candy said she had worked at that brothel.</p><p>I have seen Candy six times this year, Naomi twice, Leila three times and Nicole once. What I like about both of these brothels is that they charge £50 pounds per half hour. Rock Ferry Thai Massage charges £60 per half hour. You can get it even cheaper if you pay for 20 minutes instead of half an hour. At Temptations I give £20 to the 'maid' and the rest to the woman. I usually pay her an extra £10 for oral sex without a condom.</p><p>There is a café in Flint called Temptations, I don't know if that ever causes confusion.</p><p>I often go to Chester and I have found that it is easy to get to Queensferry or Flint from there. The 11 bus is my favourite. I don't just use it to go to brothels. I have now walked between Flint and Greenfield Dock along the western side of the Dee estuary. If I see a beluga on the way that is an added bonus.</p><p>The phone number for Temptations is 07749231388 and for Dollys it is 01244831664.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://mediarenditions.airbus.com/YXoZ8ozGyyH_mLljRGo1ErV0RFTIov33-oQscIgamik/resize?src=kpkp://airbus/38/515/515761-nqlviht7r4.jpg&w=1440&h=1440&t=fit" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="541" data-original-width="800" height="216" src="https://mediarenditions.airbus.com/YXoZ8ozGyyH_mLljRGo1ErV0RFTIov33-oQscIgamik/resize?src=kpkp://airbus/38/515/515761-nqlviht7r4.jpg&w=1440&h=1440&t=fit" width="320" /></a></div><br /><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-40381864749941156992023-08-13T11:29:00.002+01:002023-08-13T11:34:28.733+01:00feminism pornography and prostitution<p>People who have read this blog will know that I have a problem not with feminism itself but with a particular type of feminism: Radical Feminism or Revolutionary Feminism. I don't accept the beliefs of Catharine MacKinnon, Andrea Dworkin, Sheila Jeffreys and Julie Bindel. Especially when it comes to prostitution and pornography.</p><p>I was looking through the feminism section in a library and I came across two books by feminist authors that interested me greatly. They don't like MacKinnon and Dworkin either. The books are <b>Feminism</b> (A Very Short Introduction) by Margaret Walters and <b>Difficult Women</b> (A History of Feminism in 11 Fights) by Helen Lewis.</p><p>Before I quote from both books I want to point out that although MacKinnon and Dworkin don't seem to have changed their native America much, they are responsible for a big change in Sweden. According to <b>Prohibiting sex purchasing and ending trafficking: the Swedish prostitution law</b> by Max Waltman they are responsible for the law there that criminalises men like me.</p><p></p><hr /><p></p><p><b>Feminism</b> by Margaret Walters page 115</p><p>Unfortunately, this legitimate, urgently necessary insistence that rape is, indeed, a serious and violent crime, was distorted by some later feminists. For another American, Catherine MacKinnon, woman is always, indeed almost by definition, a victim. 'To be about to be raped is to be gender female in the process of going about life as usual', she insists.</p><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: left;">You grow up with your father holding you down and covering your mouth so another man can make a horrible searing pain between your legs. When you are older, your husband ties you to a bed and drips hot wax on your nipples and brings in other men to watch and makes you suck his penis ... In this thousand years of silence, the camera is invented and pictures are made of you while these things are being done ...</p></blockquote><p>Her friend Andrea Dworkin argued that 'pornography is the law for women', and flatly, without any qualification, equated rape and sexual intercourse. As, indeed, did MacKinnon, who from the opening paragraph of <i>Only Words</i> (1995) offers a terrible paradigm of what she sees as female experience: a primal paternal rape that freezes us in a state of permanent terror. She constantly evokes the image of a once-violated child who can never grow up, who, she insists, lives on in most women, even those who claim to enjoy consensual sex: 'the aggressor gets an erection; the victim screams and struggles and bleeds and blisters and becomes five years old'. This is melodrama masquerading as feminism.</p><p></p><hr /><p></p><p><b>Difficult Women</b> by Helen Lewis page 312</p><p>It is a mistake for 'gender critical' feminists, who question aspects of transgender ideology, to form alliances with right-wing Christian fundamentalists in the US who believe that changing your legal gender should not be permitted. A similar error was made by anti-porn feminists in the 1980s, whose efforts to point out the misogyny of the porn industry and its products were co-opted by religious conservatives into a broader reactionary agenda.* One shared goal does not cancel out such a fundamental divergence in world view.</p><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: left;">*'In 1984 antiporn legislation devised by Andrea Dworkin and Catharine MacKinnon, defining pornography as a violation of women's civil rights, was introduced in the Indianapolis city council by an anti-ERA [equal rights amendment] activist, passed with the support of the right, and signed into law by the Republican mayor, William Hudnut,' reported the <i>Atlantic </i>in 1992.</p></blockquote><p></p><hr /><p></p><p>page 185</p><p>Like Pizzey, though, Bindel has found herself at odds with the rest of the feminist movement. She is on the unfashionable side of two of the most divisive and heated subjects in modern feminism: transgender issues and prostitution. She believes that the latter is violence against women, and that sex-buyers should be prosecuted. The current generation of student activists take a more liberal position, stressing individual choice and agency. They argue that decriminalising both sellers <i>and </i>buyers would make the transaction safer.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51VwIqJGusL._SY291_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_ML2_.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="293" data-original-width="192" src="https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51VwIqJGusL._SY291_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_ML2_.jpg" /></a></div><br /><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-23911847301886554422023-05-28T11:48:00.004+01:002023-05-29T18:23:52.131+01:00my day trip to Blackpool<p>I had been intending to return to Blackpool and I did so on Friday. It was perfect weather for a seaside trip, sunny but not hot. I wrote about the funny little Red Light District in Blackpool, quite near the train station. I notice that it has gone downhill since I was there a couple of years ago. All of the ones in Cookson street seem to be closed now apart from Natalie's and the Thai one at number 23.</p><p>It can't be that the police have closed them because then they would all have closed. It must be that either there is less sex work or that it has shifted more from brothels to flats. You would think that women would prefer to work with each other than alone. It could be though that they don't like the brothel taking a cut of the money that they earn. It's a pity that women can't choose to run a place like this for themselves, making the rules for themselves and keeping the profits for themselves.</p><p>The Thai brothel is somewhere I wanted to visit. It is run by the same Thai woman who runs the nearest brothel to me, Rock Ferry Thai Massage. She also runs a brothel in Manchester. There is a flat in Southport where some of the same women turn up. From the outside 23 Cookson Street doesn't look nice, it looks a bit run down like the whole area. So I was surprised when I went in. They have done it up to look like the best Thai massage places.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhy34D1rwVhP26XhZ92CktjjpRju-pX9egF3Ei1Rd2E_Alm_pnuwkSDpAyjETAxExBr1mxvt9h3ZVzoHzsP5pmKJnr0AkxWrOBnaEjBc1eWyREiZZsDaWRz2wbkTU-XL-Gm9qZifvtqNToEOm72BsUXDJQG0z3lVWAI11596UrlnexhXdOgS7Ipb7oWug/s1600/Photo0303%20(2).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="23 Cookson Street" border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhy34D1rwVhP26XhZ92CktjjpRju-pX9egF3Ei1Rd2E_Alm_pnuwkSDpAyjETAxExBr1mxvt9h3ZVzoHzsP5pmKJnr0AkxWrOBnaEjBc1eWyREiZZsDaWRz2wbkTU-XL-Gm9qZifvtqNToEOm72BsUXDJQG0z3lVWAI11596UrlnexhXdOgS7Ipb7oWug/w640-h480/Photo0303%20(2).jpg" title="23 Cookson Street" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><p>Perhaps there are men who go there who don't realise that they can have full sex with their masseuse. Perhaps some of them are hoping for hand relief. When I went in I asked how many women there are there. There were two. I asked to see both of them. One of them was Nadia, who I have seen before in Rock Ferry. She told me there that she lived in Fulham and worked in Mayfair. I chose the other one though, Jessica.</p><p>I would guess that Jessica is about 40. She has long hair and is a bit plump. She has large well-shaped breasts. The best thing about Jessica is that she laughs a lot and is just good fun. I paid £60 and I had a very enjoyable time on top of her. Just the thing you want on a day trip to the seaside. I was using her standard condom but I managed to orgasm easily. I asked her if she would like to contact me when she starts work at Rock Ferry. I told her I would go to see her there. I wrote down my phone number.</p><p>Before I left this area to go to the sea front I had a good look round. I tried the door of the Babylon brothel where I had been a couple of years ago, just to see if it really was closed. It was. I hadn't been happy with my experiences in this area, it was overpriced with a poor service. But I got a very good service at number 23 and paid no more than my usual £60.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi68lukaDHnc-ngFWpqLINJbYWaSUm3XKJbnIw_4KT4EXKXS4T5fxEk3wP_grOZREKIDJpHKMdqOa3Iedf5EQRq6e7yBIvBdMFRKpMpt6n2miUZM4Z7iUsoIZxACAv_0gDs9lXF5Erxfm6mZBYIkyzsH-fD7lheO8XeL9GiIB-hr8vqLJhgStE-ZjI25w/s1600/Photo0302%20(2).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Blackpool sea front" border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi68lukaDHnc-ngFWpqLINJbYWaSUm3XKJbnIw_4KT4EXKXS4T5fxEk3wP_grOZREKIDJpHKMdqOa3Iedf5EQRq6e7yBIvBdMFRKpMpt6n2miUZM4Z7iUsoIZxACAv_0gDs9lXF5Erxfm6mZBYIkyzsH-fD7lheO8XeL9GiIB-hr8vqLJhgStE-ZjI25w/w640-h480/Photo0302%20(2).jpg" title="Blackpool sea front" width="640" /></a></div><p></p><p>In one of the side streets is a Thai massage place. Perhaps it is one of those 'legitimate' Thai places where there is no sex, just massage. Or they may just do hand relief. It could be somewhere they have full sex though. There is another Thai place in King Street where there is definitely full sex. I went into their doorway and a short Thai woman came out. I asked her if it was full service and she said yes. I asked her how many women there were there and she said just one. Probably her, I thought. Nothing to tempt me there.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2l8D8aMbT3lPOCBaEeau_zmhgbQiJGsbyMzEQFhZzthemCDmqBvhb8CPg5-0ErXq_LGqhGQNFMWsDiuWpQfLLcNIiaUSyAEG337Xwb0jk3Dmwd63djwqZ3ZhBpg5t8xfSCE3nvoLaIM2Ld2soOoTrDiRfCL7aYNTC23bQxaBiLxXY5maA8P2JFaNyBg/s1600/Photo0304%20(2).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="outside a derelict brothel in Cookson Street" border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="1200" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2l8D8aMbT3lPOCBaEeau_zmhgbQiJGsbyMzEQFhZzthemCDmqBvhb8CPg5-0ErXq_LGqhGQNFMWsDiuWpQfLLcNIiaUSyAEG337Xwb0jk3Dmwd63djwqZ3ZhBpg5t8xfSCE3nvoLaIM2Ld2soOoTrDiRfCL7aYNTC23bQxaBiLxXY5maA8P2JFaNyBg/w480-h640/Photo0304%20(2).jpg" title="outside a derelict brothel in Cookson Street" width="480" /></a></div><br /><p></p><br /><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-79253608419588574012023-05-28T11:41:00.005+01:002023-05-29T18:27:10.835+01:00my trip to Amsterdam<p>I have been to Amsterdam twice this year. I didn't go just to see sex workers. I also went to try cannabis for the first time. You might think that it would be easy enough to try cannabis without going abroad. I try to avoid doing anything illegal though. I often lack the good sense to avoid difficulties, which indeed happened both with the sex workers and the cannabis.</p><p>I walked around the Red Light District in Amsterdam for a while before I chose the first sex worker to see. She just happened to be one of the few or maybe the only one who offers sex with or without a condom. She asked me if I wanted to use a condom and - foolishly - I said no. If I had known this might happen I would have taken PrEP. I had some back in England but it didn't occur to me that this might happen.</p><p>I had sex with her three times on my first trip to Amsterdam and three times on my second trip. At least the second time I brought my PrEP with me. The first trip was about two months ago; I have had an HIV test and I am HIV negative.</p><p>The first time I had sex with this woman I waited a couple of hours and then I went back and had sex with her again. Both times without a condom. The second time was about 5 pm and I decided it was the right time to try cannabis for the first time. I went to one of the 'coffee shops' and bought a spliff of the mildest cannabis that they had available.</p><p>It didn't have the effect on me that I expected. I was expecting it to make me feel hungry then sleepy. I was hoping to get a really good night's sleep. It made me feel really hot and thirsty though. It was a bit like being drunk. I had to get home but I wasn't able to read the map. My hotel was an hours walk from the centre of Amsterdam. I managed it by recognizing landmarks.</p><p>The second time I smoked cannabis was on my second trip to Amsterdam. I bought a spliff but waited till I was back at my hotel. There was a no smoking rule at the hotel, so I smoked it outside. The next day I bought a cannabis brownie and ate it in my hotel room. It didn't make me hungry or sleepy. I felt rough the next day and didn't get up till after 2 pm. I won't be doing that again.</p><p>I had sex with other women too. There are three Red Light Districts in Amsterdam. All of them have the windows where women stand or sit in their bikinis. The main one is in the centre of Amsterdam and is called De Wallen. There is another not far away near to the Singel canal. Most of the windows here are in Oude Nieuwstraat.</p><p>I chose Marina, who is a middle-aged woman from Brazil. There are many young slender tall women in Amsterdam but I didn't choose them. I gave all of them a good look though. Marina wanted me to put my fingers in her pussy while she wanked herself. I was happy to do this and I shagged her too.</p><p>I like latina women and I had sex with two others apart from Marina. Both seemed a bit younger than Marina and very sexy. The first one was in De Wallen at the end of a street called Bloedstraat. She told me her name and where she came from but I can't remember. Her name was something like Marietta and she came from either Colombia or Venezuela. She was wonderful.</p><p>The third Red Light District is in an area called De Pijp. I had sex with another latina there. It was at the end of a street called Govert Flinckstraat. She was wonderful too, they certainly know how to make a man happy. This one talked me into giving her €60, but all the other women charged €50. Even the woman who I had sex with without a condom didn't charge extra (she also let me snog and finger her; I think 'enthusiastic amateur' is the best description). I don't know how long I spent with each one, it seemed to be about 20 minutes.</p><p>Another two other women I had sex with were both in Oude Nieuwstraat. One was Dutch, the other Mexican. Both were interesting experiences but not as good as with the other ones.</p><p>I didn't stay in De Wallen after about 7 pm, so I can't tell you what it is like late at night. </p><p>One evening I was walking along Barndesteeg. The door to one of the window flats was open and a young woman was hanging out of it. She seemed very friendly but looked a bit strange. I wondered if she was on drugs. I passed by and looked into another window. There was a young woman sitting looking at her mobile. She was wearing a mask. A domino mask. She got up and came towards me. Then I heard her shouting something and maybe some banging too.</p><p>I wondered what was going on. There were some people behind me and I thought maybe one of them had tried to take a photograph. They don't like that, it is not allowed. I considered that maybe she had privacy issues - she didn't like the way I looked at her. Women often don't like the way that I look at them, it is perhaps too intense.</p><p>The young slender tall women didn't seem to mind me looking at them. I saw one, the most beautiful, standing in the doorway in her bikini. She was taller than most too. I asked her how much and I think she said €100. I think some of them charge €150.</p><p>The only younger one that I might have gone with was a really cute one who smiled encouragingly from her window. She was in Monnikenstraat. The other woman who was very encouraging was a woman sitting in lingire in a window up some steps. She saw me looking at her and opened her stockinged legs then closed them. I tried to find her on my second trip but she wasn't there.</p><p>The last woman who made an impression on me was a young woman I think in Boomsteeg. She wasn't trying to be sexy. She didn't have loads of makeup on. She was just a young beautiful blonde woman. Perhaps she wondered why I was staring at her but she didn't seem to mind. I wonder if she realises how much happiness she has brought to so many men.<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0K34PYLs2YQAVqhIgNf7lz6taT8P4cRhNLhHFFCHFvrk6F49jfQb0mGWYf4o_f5ONrV6HgTXUSp5UooRBaBx7bQkJpXdhgGtvGhBv-v6C6He7sEPY-TbOfoeCtb2U66yvIpCgGxkajkqOhQs33ro4XLw-2JTOt622C5NCELLRitqc_MCHcsDcuzGFxg/s845/Extras%20(2).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="281" data-original-width="845" height="212" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg0K34PYLs2YQAVqhIgNf7lz6taT8P4cRhNLhHFFCHFvrk6F49jfQb0mGWYf4o_f5ONrV6HgTXUSp5UooRBaBx7bQkJpXdhgGtvGhBv-v6C6He7sEPY-TbOfoeCtb2U66yvIpCgGxkajkqOhQs33ro4XLw-2JTOt622C5NCELLRitqc_MCHcsDcuzGFxg/w640-h212/Extras%20(2).jpg" width="640" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">I saw this at the airport</td></tr></tbody></table><br /></p><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-30391218559063378602023-03-28T12:40:00.001+01:002023-03-28T12:46:49.318+01:00am I being censored?<p>I just noticed today that many of my posts and one of my pages have been removed from this blog. I will try to rectify this but in the meantime be aware that many of my posts and pages could disappear over the next few days. Anyone who can give me advice on this feel free to comment.</p><p>These posts are valuable. The post about the Soho 'maid' Wendy - for example - is about of Soho history. My post about nostalgia for Liverpool and Soho is about Liverpool and Soho history. The information is not found anywhere else. I don't understand why they are violating 'Community Guidelines'.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBYsu1UibW0RPFuwo5rFAoj8cmiaXjmkJBXvOSfspvnPQtP8bbSmluqm8ukzH3axeYgqxt6GqXriWa2acEyXwdRm0sAZPnzjAzV2xLXrmwSJ3eDs_ZiPdWRRAQO5eg8XdqyNxD1MQEwz1n6rmjb1b-E58o5JR_mKrRF_hH00yONZAeuoERl1HsuTTnBg/s1061/censor.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="877" data-original-width="1061" height="530" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBYsu1UibW0RPFuwo5rFAoj8cmiaXjmkJBXvOSfspvnPQtP8bbSmluqm8ukzH3axeYgqxt6GqXriWa2acEyXwdRm0sAZPnzjAzV2xLXrmwSJ3eDs_ZiPdWRRAQO5eg8XdqyNxD1MQEwz1n6rmjb1b-E58o5JR_mKrRF_hH00yONZAeuoERl1HsuTTnBg/w640-h530/censor.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><br /><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-89003670699933277322023-03-07T14:31:00.017+00:002023-04-01T16:30:37.111+01:00which way for Britain?<p>I used to think that the Nordic Model might come to Britain. It already has in Northern Ireland. Recently though it seems that we are moving the other way. Julie Bindel is worried that this might be happening. She wrote an article in December subtitled '<a href="https://unherd.com/2022/12/labours-grim-defence-of-the-sex-trade/">Young Left-wing MPs ignore the exploitative reality</a>'.</p><p>In this article she criticises a number of women politicians for speaking in favour of decriminalisation. Nadia Whittome, Dawn Butler, Charlotte Nichols and Zarah Sultana from Labour. Caroline Lucas and Natalie Bennett from the Green Party.</p><p>About Nadia Whittome: "<i>She was delighted when feminists lost their fight to put a cap on lap dance clubs in Bristol, despite evidence that men outside the clubs sexually harass women on their way home</i>".</p><p>Julie Bindel doesn't give a link to this 'evidence' although she gives links to other things. If you follow the links though they never seem to support the points she makes.</p><p>Caroline Lucas used to support the Nordic model but changed her mind after talking to Paris Lees. <a href="https://publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201415/cmhansrd/cm141104/debtext/141104-0004.htm">One link</a> given in this paragraph doesn't have anything to do with Caroline's ideas about prostitution though. It is a link to a debate where Caroline was present but didn't speak.</p><p>Another link is intended to support her assertion that 'the psychological damage as a result of prostitution is well documented'. The link is to a study titled '<a href="https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1471-244X-6-24">Posttraumatic stress disorder among female street-based sex workers in the greater Sydney area, Australia</a>'. It is not about sex workers in general, it is only to do with women who are drug addicts and street-based sex workers. They are a minority of sex workers and their psychological damage is as much to do with drug addiction and homelessness as it is to do with street prostitution.</p><p>Julie Bindel states that in New Zealand HIV and rape are thought of as "industrial injury".She links to a document called '<a href="https://www.nzpc.org.nz/pdfs/OHS.Sex-Industry.pdf">A Guide to Occupational Health and Safety in the New Zealand Sex Industry</a>'. The version she links to is not a seachable version but I found one <a href="https://espu-usa.com/espu-ca/wp-content/uploads/2008/02/nz-health-and-safety-handbook.pdf">here</a>. The word "industrial" is not found anywhere in the text. The document is meant to help women avoid harm, it doesn't say that sex workers have to accept harm as a necessary part of what they do.</p><p>There can be a sex industry where harm is minimised or a sex industry where harm is not minimised. What is not possible is to have a society without a sex industry. You can try to ban it but it will not work. It hasn't worked in any Nordic Model country.</p><p>She believes that legalisation increases trafficking and the sexual exploitation of children. She links to <a href="https://eprints.lse.ac.uk/45198/1/Neumayer_Legalized_Prostitution_Increase_2012.pdf">a study done by the London School of Economics</a>. The study however has nothing to say about the exploitation of children. The study says that the more prostitution there is in a country the more trafficking there will be. It doesn't seem to distinguish between women who are coerced and women whose motivation is to make more money.</p><p>Some countries have more prostitutes and therefore more trafficking. The study establishes that the amount of prostitution and trafficking increased in Germany. It does not establish that the amount of prostitution and trafficking increased in Denmark or decreased in Sweden. Germany, Denmark and Sweden were the three countries studied in some detail. It says nothing about New Zealand, which is the only country to have had decriminalisation in place for a number of years, where <a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/journal-of-social-policy/article/abs/impact-of-decriminalisation-on-the-number-of-sex-workers-in-new-zealand/E5240A985923A0884B2B620973E7410C">we know there has been no increase in the amount of prostitution</a>.</p><p>Denmark has more prostitution than Sweden, but there is no evidence that this is because of the difference in the laws. So that cannot be used to say that there is more prostitution and trafficking because of differences in law. It can even less be said that legalisation causes an increase in prostitution and trafficking ('legalisation of the sex trade increases both' in Bindel's words), and the study does not say that. We know that did happen in Germany, but we already know that what is happening in Germany is not the right way to go.</p><p>Bindel writes that "The commercial sexual exploitation of children is rife, for example, the buying and selling of Albanian refugee children in Kent". <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2022/dec/03/almost-fifth-of-lone-albanian-child-refugees-in-kent-missing-says-council">The article she links to does not say that though.</a> It says that Albanian children have gone missing. It doesn't say anything about them being bought and sold, or even sexual exploitation.</p><p>"Tina sold sex from high-end London hotels for years and was forced to sleep in handcuffs every night." I don't know where this comes from. The <a href="https://www.spaceintl.org/">Space International site</a> she links to in this paragraph has nothing about Tina or handcuffs. It has testimony from 'women who have escaped' but I can't find a Tina. Rachel Moran doesn't mention anyone being forced to sleep in handcuffs every night in her book.</p><p>There are horror stories and they want us to believe that they are typical of the sex industry.*</p><p>Nadia Whittome gets another mention in <a href="https://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/change-brothel-laws-to-keep-sex-workers-safe-top-police-officer-urges-government/ar-AA15u5Df">an article</a> that suggests there has been a big change in the attitudes of the police towards brothel keeping. The police closed many brothels in the 2010s.</p><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><p>"<i>Commenting on the police officer's remarks, Nadia Whittome, Labour MP for Nottingham East, told The Independent: Right now, too many sex workers work alone for fear of prosecution, increasing the risks they face.</i></p><p><i>Changing the law on brothel keeping so that sex workers could work from the same premise would be an important step in the right direction.</i>"</p></blockquote><p>Christine Jardine, a Scottish Liberal Democrat, agrees with Nadia Whittome. So it looks as if Julie Bindel will have to add Christine Jardine to her list of female MPs who she despises, along with Nadia Whittome, Dawn Butler, Charlotte Nichols, Zarah Sultana, Caroline Lucas and Natalie Bennett. She will have to add the Liberal Democratic party to the Labour and Green Party. That seems to leave just the Conservatives left for her.</p><p>It's not that Whittome <i>et al</i> ignore the exploitative reality. Bindel and people like her have failed to convince them. Most prostitutes don't get PTSD. Decriminalisation doesn't increase the amount of prostitution, trafficking or the sexual exploitation of children. It's not surprising that people think that Julie Bindel and her Evangelical allies are pearl-clutchers.</p><p>What is Julie Bindel's real motivation? Does she really believe that women need to be freed from handcuffs? Or, as a <a href="http://betedenuit.blogspot.com/p/political-lesbianism.html">political lesbian</a>, does she think that women shouldn't be having sex with men anyway? Does she think that she can stop some women having sex with some men, which is some way towards her ideal society?</p><hr /><p>* The worst horror story that I know of - and a real one - is that of the the four <a href="https://medium.com/the-boneyard/the-fascinating-tale-of-four-cruel-women-their-deadly-exploits-6cb40f117b7d">Gonzalez Valenzuela</a> sisters. It's quite interesting but not relevant - it comes from 1940s Mexico. They were the <i>perpetrators</i>, not the <i>victims</i>.</p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:720/format:webp/1*-mrOLDRzZ4Dg6BPmSr_FRw.jpeg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="554" data-original-width="720" height="493" src="https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:720/format:webp/1*-mrOLDRzZ4Dg6BPmSr_FRw.jpeg" width="640" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">the victims of the Gonzalez Valenzuela sisters</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-19510632229670312862023-01-15T11:51:00.007+00:002023-01-17T18:32:24.014+00:00the reality of trafficking<div>Recently I participated in an internet forum about prostitution (ukpunting.com) where a thread was entitled 'Trafficking'. The man who started the thread began with "Should we report suspected trafficking to the police? Is that a moral dilemma for punters? How do you define it?".</div><div><br />What surprised me was the level of ignorance of most of the other contributors. They really do seem to be confused about the issue. This confusion has led to a great deal of harm to women.</div><div><br />I tried to explain that you have to be very careful what you report to the police. It can result in arrest and deportation for the women concerned. There were two different responses to that. One was to say that they don't believe that women will be deported. If the police don't find evidence of abuse they will leave the women alone. The other was that if they are deported it will be because they shouldn't be in this country anyway. So what's the problem?</div><div><br />Both responses are ignorant, but the second is also callous. When the police find women from abroad they will deport them when they can. There is lots of evidence that this is happening. When Britain was part of the EU women from Romania (for example) were entitled to live in Britain. They were deported anyway. So it's not just people who shouldn't be in this country anyway.</div><div><br />I'm not sure what the situation is now that we have left the EU. What I expect is that women on tourist or student visas will be deported even if they haven't overstayed.</div><div><br />On page 80 of <b>Revolting Prostitutes </b>by Juno Mac and Molly Smith they say this:-</div><div><br /><i>"Police Scotland put out a press release noting that they had refused entry at the border to more than a hundred people as part of their anti-trafficking work - offering as an example a Romanian woman who had 'previously worked as a prostitute in Glasgow'. The BBC reports, 'She was refused admission at Glasgow in May 2017, then again at Liverpool in July 2017 and was encountered recently at Belfast docks attempting to get to Scotland. She was removed to Romania."</i></div><div><br />They go on to write about another Romanian woman whose sex worker colleague was murdered in her presence. The police 'deported her while claiming a humanitarian anti-trafficking mantle'.</div><div><br />This also happens in Nordic Model countries where they (wrongly) say that women have been decriminalised. On the <b>Nordic Model Now!</b> site Luba Fein writes in the <b><a href="https://nordicmodelnow.org/2019/12/22/has-the-nordic-model-worked-what-does-the-research-say/">Has the Nordic Model worked? What does the research say?</a></b> page about Nordic Model countries:-</div><div><br /><i>"While there is no clear evidence that the police are violent towards those engaged in prostitution, they do tend to target undocumented migrants and report them to the immigration authorities for potential deportation. Clearly this is unacceptable and states need to provide better support and assistance to foreign nationals who have been used and abused in the sex trade within their territory."</i></div><div><br />Most people who support the Nordic Model seem to think that prostitution should be eliminated by any means necessary. They don't care about the women who are harmed. However, Luba Fein believes that it is clearly unacceptable to deport prostitutes.</div><div><br />So even she - a Nordic Model supporter - has compassion for deported women. It surprised me when so many people on the forum didn't have this compassion. It is also a contradictory attitude to have. You want to report a brothel to the police because you think that coercion might have occurred - presumably out of compassion for the women there. Yet if the result of your actions is for women to be deported then you say it doesn't really matter.</div><div><br /></div><div>You have to question people's true motives. Someone says he wants to free women yet if he knew that the women had not been coerced or deceived but had been deported he says he doesn't care. It sounds like the real motivation is dislike of immigrants.</div><div><br />If you ask what proportion of Brazilian or Chinese nationals working as prostitutes in Britain are trafficked, the answer has to be nearly all of them. They are trafficked because someone will have organised their flight, organised their accommodation, and organized their customers. It's very unlikely that someone who doesn't speak good English will be able to organize themselves.</div><div><br />If you ask what proportion of Brazilian or Chinese nationals working as prostitutes in Britain are coerced or deceived, the answer has to be hardly any. There are many reasons why we know this. You can read what investigative journalist Nick Davies has written in his article <b><a href="https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2009/oct/20/government-trafficking-enquiry-fails">Inquiry Fails to Find Single Trafficker Who Forced Anybody Into Prostitution</a></b>. Read what Emily Kenway has written in her book <b>The Truth About Modern Slavery</b>.</div><div><br />Section 14 of the Policing and Crime Act 2009 says that a man who pays for sex with a woman who has been coerced or deceived is committing a crime, even if he didn't know that. 81% of police forces in England and Wales have never used it. The remaining ones seem to be using it for something other than for what it was intended.</div><div><br />It is clear that trafficking and coercion are two different things. Most non-European prostitutes will have been trafficked, and few will have been coerced. People don't seem to be able to distinguish between these two things. They say they will report their suspicions to the police, and if later there are prosecutions for trafficking they feel vindicated.</div><div><br />If a man decides to make money by recruiting women from Brazil for prostitution, he may feel that because they don't have bruises and don't look miserable then nobody can accuse him of trafficking. He will be prosecuted though, and they will be deported.</div><div><br />I was asked on the thread what I would do. I wrote that there should be welfare officers independent of the police. People could give information to them, and the welfare officers could pass on to the police information if they thought that it was in the interests of the women.</div><div><br />I was then told that there are already people like this. There are Dedicated Liaison Officers or Sex Work Liaison Officers. These however are not independent of the police. It doesn't seem that they can be can be contacted by members of the public. That's not what they are for.</div><div><br />I wrote that instead of the police deporting any woman that they can, it would be better if the police or a welfare officer interviewed them. First to find out if they have been coerced or deceived. If, as is usually the case, they haven't then each woman should be asked why she came to Britain. If she says that she wants to stay 3 months, earn £20,000, then go back to China to start her own small business then she should be told she won't be deported if she's out of the country in 3 months time.</div><div><br />She should be told that if she's not out of the country by then she will be found and deported. She will have a black mark against her name because the Chinese government keeps tabs on all its citizens. She may find it difficult to get a job or the sort of job that she would like, and may have problems with custody of her children. That's why I would hesitate to report a brothel to the police, I wouldn't want that on my conscience.</div><div><br />I tried to tell them about the Palermo Protocol but they weren't interested. The Palermo Protocol defines trafficking and was adopted by the UN in 2000. It says that trafficking has to include coercion or deception if the person is over 18. If there is no coercion or deception then it isn't trafficking. That definition was changed in the US and UK. Under UK law now it doesn't have to include coercion or deception. This is where the confusion comes in.</div><div><br />As <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2009/oct/20/trafficking-numbers-women-exaggerated">Nick Davies wrote a while ago in The Guardian</a>:-</div><div><br /><i>"And, from the outset, that word was a problem. On a strict definition, eventually expressed in international law by the 2000 Palermo protocol, sex trafficking involves the use of force, fraud or coercion to transport an unwilling victim into sexual exploitation. This image of sex slavery soon provoked real public anxiety.</i></div><div><br /><i>But a much looser definition, subsequently adopted by the UK's 2003 Sexual Offences Act, uses the word to describe the movement of all sex workers, including willing professionals who are simply travelling in search of a better income. This wider meaning has injected public debate with confusion and disproportionate anxiety."</i></div><i></i><div><br />I was accused of trying to confuse people. People like me try to confuse people about trafficking. I replied that there are people who want to confuse, people whose interests are served by confusing the issue. I said who these people are. Christian Evangelicals and Radical Feminists in the UK and US. They didn't believe that.</div><div><br />Instead I was told that it is 'UK pro-decriminalisation advocates' who are trying to confuse people. Someone suggested that I am a pimp. That could be the only reason in his mind why I would be reluctant to help the police to raid brothels. I told him that pimps aren't going to support decriminalisation if they understand the issue because in New Zealand pimps have gone out of business. There are far fewer pimps in New Zealand now than before decriminalisation.</div><div><br /></div><div>It is true that New Zealand has its problems with migrants. I have explained this in a recent post. It's because of section 19 of the PRA which those who campaigned for decriminalisation never wanted and are trying to remove.</div><div><br />Then I was accused of being political even though it wasn't me who raised the issue of decriminalisation. Now I have been banned. That doesn't bother me because there's no point in having a forum if people don't understand how to have a discussion.</div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgc2QVMp3txoM8Zkw4y6LPH4HrwUbiKx_4kwjFSGRcOlLrk4LCXNqv2MdPw9CfVwT2sx59RhV32pY0DUAyxcVmfK-qPVgi_qo7cnBZk7jEi-ZMjvZp7tHaT97jFP2r4X0YIEUzk4AxeX1CEweXmuKL1K65gfAFhdGLySJir2s5Z_wFbcGUT4U95oUAacQ/s1023/stock-photo-asian-woman-waiting-suitcase-airport.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="683" data-original-width="1023" height="427" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgc2QVMp3txoM8Zkw4y6LPH4HrwUbiKx_4kwjFSGRcOlLrk4LCXNqv2MdPw9CfVwT2sx59RhV32pY0DUAyxcVmfK-qPVgi_qo7cnBZk7jEi-ZMjvZp7tHaT97jFP2r4X0YIEUzk4AxeX1CEweXmuKL1K65gfAFhdGLySJir2s5Z_wFbcGUT4U95oUAacQ/w640-h427/stock-photo-asian-woman-waiting-suitcase-airport.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br />Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-88443456337678869902022-12-31T18:34:00.006+00:002023-01-17T18:33:10.689+00:00my review of the year 2022<div>It has been a good year for me. I set out to limit myself to one paid-for sexual encounter each month. I have had more than twelve though. Until today I had had twelve paid-for sexual encounters resulting in orgasm and today I had another one. That's better than last year, better than any year (yes I do keep records). As you will know if you have been reading this blog, I don't always have an orgasm. </div><div><br /></div><div>In January and February I went to my nearest brothel, Rock Ferry Thai Massage. I had sex and orgasms with Emma and Maya. So far so good. I had another orgasm with Maya in April. In April and May I had sex and orgasms with Pepsi at the same place. Pepsi is much more attractive that either Emma and Maya. The second time with Pepsi she let me snog her while I was on top of her, which made it even more enjoyable.</div><div><br /></div><div>In June I made two daytrips to Sheffield. On the second one Alec at Diplomat let me use one of my thin condoms, which is probably why I had an orgasm with her but no one else. In July I had a daytrip to London, I went to Soho and visited a couple of walk ups.</div><div><br /></div><div>In June I started going to a flat that I found out about in Southport. Some of the women who go to Rock Ferry Thai Massage also go here. In July saw the lovely Joy again here. When I didn't orgasm she said it was because I had taken viagra. She said next time don't take viagra, she will be able to give me an erection without it.</div><div><br /></div><div>In September I went to Angel Lodge in Liverpool looking for Megan. Instead I found the very attractive Olivia. I shagged her until I came. In October I decided to go to the brothel in Manchester which is run by the old Thai woman who also runs Rock Ferry Thai Massage. I was lucky to find Pepsi there so I gave her a good shagging.</div><div><br /></div><div>This month I shagged Joy again at Rock Ferry Thai Massage and this time I orgasmed. It wasn't because I didn't take a viagra, I had taken one. I don't know what difference it makes but sometimes I think that when it is starting to wear off then I get both a good erection and resulting in an orgasm. I've seen Pepsi three times this year and orgasmed twice, Joy two times and orgasmed once. Quite good going for someone of my age.</div><div><br /></div><div>In my last blog I told you about the new Chinese brothel down by the docks in Liverpool. I have been there six times since October. The first time I saw Yaya. I shagged her without a condom. I recently had an HIV test: you have to wait 7 weeks before you can have the blood test that will tell you if you have the HIV infection. You can have a test kit sent to your home, I did that but couldn't get enough blood from my fingers so I arranged to go back to the GUM clinic where they took my blood. They test for other STIs too. I will get the results soon but I'm not worried, it will probably be negative.</div><div><br /></div><div>The second girl I saw here was slightly more attactive than Yaya and wanted to use a condom so we did. The third girl was called Ee-purr. I've no idea how she spells it but that's what it sounds like. She was very pretty and young, smiley and chatty. The fourth girl didn't look happy at all. I started thinking this brothel must be a bad place. First a woman who didn't seem to know about condoms and now a girl who looks unhappy.</div><div><br /></div><div>On the internet someone said it should be closed down. He said that the man who seems to be security there is to stop them escaping. I don't believe that. There was a documentary about trafficking I have written about. A Brazilian woman was deported, she tried to return to Britain, saying that she needed money for uni. A police officer said that the women aren't coerced but they don't know what they are letting themselves in for. They face rape and robbery and therefore it all needs to be stopped.</div><div><br /></div><div>However, it is the system that makes them vulnerable to rape and robbery. Police activity means they often work alone. At this Chinese brothel in Liverpool they are not going to be raped or robbed with that security guard there. I don't know what the answer is.</div><div><br /></div><div>A few days ago I went there again. This time it was the most beautiful woman. I like Japanese pornography, one reason is that often they have very beautiful women in it. This woman was as beautiful as any. I asked her name. I thought she said Bingo, I thought what strange names they choose for themselves. I felt a sense of unreality because she was like a dream woman to me.</div><div><br /></div><div>I went to see her again today. Like the last time I got on top of her and fucked her. This time though I had an orgasm. Both times she had let me use one of my thin condoms. She is very engaging, smiling and laughing, talking and looking at me in the eyes.</div><div><br /></div><div>I said she should take my phone number so that when she comes back to Liverpool she can text me and I will come to see her again. To my surprise she said yes. She said her name isn't Bingo, it is Bingu. That's her real name. I thought they might not have a bathroom there to keep themselves clean. Turns out they've got a really nice one, I've been in it.</div><div><br /></div><div>In my last post I said that one thing I like about Meena is that she stays with me for the full half hour after I have orgasmed, massaging me and talking to me. When I saw Joy for the second time this year it was the same: perhaps they are different with regular clients. It was the same with Bingu today.</div><div><br /></div><div>Sometimes I think what would 'cure' me of my desire to visit sex workers. It wouldn't be a series of bad experiences. It could be a series of wonderful experiences, such as I have had this year. If someone had a perfect holiday, might they consider that they don't need to go on holiday again? They have found what they were looking for. They found the perfect holiday. No need to search any more.</div><div><br /></div><div>I won't be visiting a sex worker for a while. It might be different when it comes to the summer. If I get a text message from Bingu I shall see her. If I make a daytrip to Blackpool and Pepsi is at this brothel I told you about then I shall see her. I'm tempted to make another day trip to London now that I know Sabrina is still in Greek Street and Poppy is still in Greens Court. I missed out on seeing them on this year's daytrip. I would have to plan it better if I wanted to see both of them on the same day.</div><div><br /></div><div>I will tell you all about it if I do. In the meantime I will keep myself informed about the legal aspects of sex work and pass on anything important.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvbmEW1hMxP0D5A6HlXMFPyIG3f5d-0vz7v1GvqFQXVk_2_MA1CUVN_1YTo9rlAnMHRsBkwFt0dcwZj0yijuLVtmOfSu7y8D7h4Uyy8FNk-3OlbedZCH5v-O9zQ92xGFHMeFEglENm0dKGN9L977o7C8pzgtUEKr1O9WagsIFAIjKP26DlFR3Yf0XMjQ/s2048/Baltic%20Fleet.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="480" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvbmEW1hMxP0D5A6HlXMFPyIG3f5d-0vz7v1GvqFQXVk_2_MA1CUVN_1YTo9rlAnMHRsBkwFt0dcwZj0yijuLVtmOfSu7y8D7h4Uyy8FNk-3OlbedZCH5v-O9zQ92xGFHMeFEglENm0dKGN9L977o7C8pzgtUEKr1O9WagsIFAIjKP26DlFR3Yf0XMjQ/w640-h480/Baltic%20Fleet.jpg" width="640" /></a></div><br /></div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-4026876376927376582022-11-20T12:15:00.002+00:002022-11-20T12:15:30.382+00:00down by the docks<div>I told you that there is only one brothel in Liverpool now. I have found another, down by the docks. I don't think you would want to go there though.</div><div><br />Since my day trip to London in July I have been to Angel Lodge, the brothel in Liverpool that I have told you about before. I was hoping to see Megan, who I have seen several times before. Instead there was Olivia. Olivia is taller, thinner and younger than Megan. She has tightly-curled blonde hair, a light tan and very white teeth. She is also very friendly. I told Olivia that Megan let me use my ultra-thin condoms, if they were in an unopened pack.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeolyrzyTFoenxrUrgK98qsnXqZEnAAxuMfh9pnnTFm_mYVCaCTc2JSs1Sa2p1Felh3kZE1Vonu8rDLgGtNmNCCbL6OADgrLNVnUuts02LcEupj6dRXIrZ-WbGsp72Y-8mpMHfHtyvT0a_16-_jr_0hLQzhcHGAljUGiD4QpouuNVvZuyIUkhouQ5OkA/s1600/Liverpool.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeolyrzyTFoenxrUrgK98qsnXqZEnAAxuMfh9pnnTFm_mYVCaCTc2JSs1Sa2p1Felh3kZE1Vonu8rDLgGtNmNCCbL6OADgrLNVnUuts02LcEupj6dRXIrZ-WbGsp72Y-8mpMHfHtyvT0a_16-_jr_0hLQzhcHGAljUGiD4QpouuNVvZuyIUkhouQ5OkA/s320/Liverpool.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div>Olivia didn't tell me that I could do the same. We had sex with one of her normal condoms but I still had an orgasm. I went to see her a second time. I told her that I had seen a model in a clothes catalogue who looked just like her. So much so that I thought it might be her. The same hair, light tan and white teeth. So, if you want to know what Olivia looks like, go to the Joe Brown's site. Perhaps that look is becoming fashionable.</div><div><br />I have also been back to the Thai brothel in Rock Ferry. I have seen Meena twice. Meena is older and not so attractive but I like her. She lets me use ultra-thin condoms. One of the things I like about her is that after I have had my orgasm she stays with me for the full half hour that I have paid for. She gives me a massage and we talk. I pay £60 to see Meena but only £50 to see Olivia (or £60 if I also want oral sex without a condom).</div><div><br />I told you before that I have been finding out about where the women go when they are not working in Rock Ferry. I know that Joy sometimes works for a couple of weeks from a flat in Southport. I went to see her there. It makes a nice day out. I thought Pepsi works there too, but it turns out another woman I have seen in Rock Ferry calls herself Pepsi when in Southport. I knew her as Emma and I don't like her. She is older like Meena but not friendly.</div><div><br />The old woman who owns and runs the Rock Ferry brothel also owns a brothel in Manchester and another one in Blackpool. I went to the one in Manchester (6 Park Place) for the first time. The old woman opened the door and recognised me. I was in luck because Pepsi (the real Pepsi) was there. I had half an hour with her. I didn't know about this place until recently even though it was in the next street to a favourite brothel that has closed permanently (Salon 24).</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKqfyU3mLGCrd4H6MjgQJvW8l09sC6BlOM2G2_IeKxMpF_rClg_izz4rMd70zNNoQLS_svg-A8yHrk0wPUAIw-WsXFxQKm_GcsEZ1SVG94ZeXLsyR8BicULjKJRYFjXSradfmCechXrm6dhLWnv_bTds2ybIej_wp6k5hl-YRlbjcpRQRzHVHEqtBDww/s1600/Manchester.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="1200" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKqfyU3mLGCrd4H6MjgQJvW8l09sC6BlOM2G2_IeKxMpF_rClg_izz4rMd70zNNoQLS_svg-A8yHrk0wPUAIw-WsXFxQKm_GcsEZ1SVG94ZeXLsyR8BicULjKJRYFjXSradfmCechXrm6dhLWnv_bTds2ybIej_wp6k5hl-YRlbjcpRQRzHVHEqtBDww/s320/Manchester.jpg" width="240" /></a></div><br /><div>The Blackpool brothel is at 23 Cookson Street. I have not been there but I would like to go. Next time I feel like a day out in Blackpool. I have told you about my days out in Blackpool in 2019. I can phone to find out who is there. I can find Pepsi and avoid Emma. Cookson Street is an odd little red light district in Blackpool I have told you about.</div><div><br />When I saw the advert for the new Liverpool brothel I thought it was going to be like the brothel in Rock Ferry but it is very different. I have not been to a place like that except once many years ago in Croydon. You phone the number and a woman answers. She will tell you the street (alley) to go to. It's near the Baltic Fleet pub. When she has seen you then she will tell you the number of the flat.</div><div><br />The door is opened by a Chinese man. He knows little English but gestures for you to sit and wait. He sits in the same room as you. It smells of Chinese food. When the previous customer has finished he will come down the stairs and walk past you to the door. You go up the stairs to a small room.</div><div><br />The woman I saw the first time was young and attractive. She told me her name is Yaya. She speaks next to no English and I realised that the woman I spoke to on the phone is not the same woman. I also wondered if she has washed since the previous customer or changed anything on the bed.</div><div><br />We did some kissing and touching and then I indicated I wanted to get on top of her. I was expecting her to reach over for a condom but instead I got a slightly puzzled look. It took me a couple of seconds for me to realise that I could fuck her without a condom. Foolishly I did. I really enjoyed it.</div><div><br />I had some ultra-thin condoms in my bag but I didn't think to use them. Afterwards she continued to be friendly, helping me on with my clothes. She looked me in the eyes and asked me if I am English. I have an unusual eye colour and she wanted to know which ethnic group has eyes like mine.</div><div><br />Later I thought that if I had known this would happen I would have used one of my ultra-thin condoms. Then I could have gone to a GUM clinic and got PrEP. I have been on it before and if you take it before unprotected sex you won't get HIV. Then I could have gone to the brothel again, fully prepared for any eventuality.</div><div><br />I searched for information about it and realised there is also something called PEP. You can take PEP after unprotected sex. I went to Boots and they said go to the GUM clinic in Liverpool. I went there and they said go to A&E. I went there and they said go to the walk-in GPs surgery in the same hospital. I went there and they said I would have to go back to A&E: they haven't got any PEP.</div><div><br />Two weeks later I went back to the Chinese brothel. A different girl was there. She was prettier, taller and thinner than Yaya. She wanted to use a condom so we did. She hardly spoke any English. I asked her name. I can't remember it because it sounded Chinese but I think it begins with an N. I asked her about Yaya. I think what she said was that Yaya is in London and wouldn't be coming back: there are only 3 girls who return there again and again.</div><div><br />I think the reason these women do this is because they can make a hell of a lot more money than in a garment factory in Shanghai. They aren't looked after properly though. They should all be told about condoms. They should be able to shower between customers. I might go back once more but it will never become somewhere I want to go again and again like the one in Rock Ferry.</div><div><br />I'm not sure I should even call it a brothel because it seems there is only one sex worker there at a time. There is the woman on the phone and the security man. I suppose it might be like many of the 'independent' sex workers in Liverpool. There are some truly independent sex workers in Liverpool. The best system is the one only found in New Zealand: women working together for safety and companionship making the rules themselves and keeping the profits for themselves.</div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-2883953678658736042022-08-11T12:25:00.007+01:002023-01-17T18:33:52.896+00:00New Zealand decriminalisation model<p>I have just been reading a blog written by a sex worker in New Zealand. I think that what she has to say is so important I want to repeat it here. This comes from the post <a href="https://dollargirlblog.wordpress.com/2022/06/19/what-the-nz-model-cheer-squad-get-wrong/">What the NZ model cheer squad get wrong</a> on the <a href="https://dollargirlblog.wordpress.com/">Dollar Girl Diaries</a> blog.</p><p>If what she is saying is true then it seems that the decriminalisation of sex work has succeeded even better than expected. Sex workers are turning away from pimps because they don't need them. I have always said that sex workers don't need pimps, they can work for themselves.</p><p>"<b>So, what happened when we introduced decriminalisation? Something totally unexpected. The paradigm shifted and it shifted radically. The brothels and agencies got wiped out, they were forced out of business. Nobody predicted it. But why did it happen? Despite decriminalisation, the casual independent contractor model for brothel work stayed. The owners had no reason to change it, there was a lot of very good employment case law from around the world saying this was legal and changing would both increase their costs and reduce power over the workers. So they didn’t change it. Decriminalisation however meant you could work outside the brothel system without fear of arrest of police harassment. Suddenly independent work was every bit as safe from arrest as the brothel work. The PRA also includes a provision allowing up to four sex workers to work out of a single location and share the costs equally without a license. Only restriction is all have to control their income independently, you can’t pool the takings and share them out. Gives the safety benefits of a brothel without the exploitation of a manager. Of course this means you’re self employed, with all the issues that brings, but without half your income going into somebody else’s pocket, you can put aside for those things.</b></p><p><b>Now for the first time, brothel workers had a choice. They no longer needed the brothels and agencies to be safe from arrest. They could stay on in the brothels as self employed independent contractors, with the owners taking around half of what they earned and imposing shift fees, late penalties, controlling their shifts to keep them from complaining, pressuring them to take clients they didn’t want etc. Or they could cut out on their own as an independent worker, maybe get together with a couple of other workers and form one of those new fangled small worker collective brothels. Of course that meant facing the perils of self employment, but they were being treated as self employed in the brothel system anyway. Unsurprisingly, the vast majority elected to cut out on their own. The old brothel system very simply collapsed as the workers found they no longer needed it’s protection. The entire industry paradigm changed. The sex industry in New Zealand is now dominated by independent workers and small worker collectives. Before 2003 there were over 400 hundred brothels and agencies in New Zealand, there are 45 left.</b>"</p><p>This shows that the proponents of the Nordic model have got it wrong when criticising the New Zealand model. Finn Mackay in her book Radical Feminism on page 211 writing about the English Collective of Prostitutes (ECP) and the International Union of Sex Workers (IUSW). "<i>Both groups commend the approach taken in New Zealand, where brothels of varying sizes from small owner-operated ventures to larger chains are allowed to operate legally, though the ECP favour small owner-operated ventures over larger big business brothel chains. The latter are thriving however under this regime.</i>" <br /><br /> Mackay also writes that there had been plans for a 15-storey brothel in Auckland that didn't go ahead. Three brothels in Queensland closed complaining about unfair competition. That doesn't sound as if big business is thriving. </p><p>People who believe in decriminalisation are not the pimp lobby. The last thing that pimps want is the decriminalisation of sex work just like the last thing that drug dealers want is the decriminalisation of drugs.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGoCZAJTiXebWoPs-GBRl0PCGbwDaovYsdWHdA63p3USU2SoHoyTcOxzMbu4hL3l-unz_DEZgebbsaFJvBYJ6gOPSXpJ6FpltybAPtJ0hult9n-fL2vW3bFAScZcia58MqQYElJw-t-rDHmRWz46EAoNomCK-kfjJi0UocI_Uzxjq5n_PCzVmyPY7cCQ/s350/moulin_rouge_nicole_kidman.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="278" data-original-width="350" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGoCZAJTiXebWoPs-GBRl0PCGbwDaovYsdWHdA63p3USU2SoHoyTcOxzMbu4hL3l-unz_DEZgebbsaFJvBYJ6gOPSXpJ6FpltybAPtJ0hult9n-fL2vW3bFAScZcia58MqQYElJw-t-rDHmRWz46EAoNomCK-kfjJi0UocI_Uzxjq5n_PCzVmyPY7cCQ/s16000/moulin_rouge_nicole_kidman.png" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-69245346181146619522022-08-08T18:36:00.002+01:002023-01-17T18:34:13.919+00:00more than two types of sex work<div>In my last post and the one before I pointed out the prohibitionist argument heavily dependent on the idea that there is a minority of sex workers who make a good living and a majority who are drug addicts and pimped. The idea is that escorts etc are unrepresentative - 'tourists' - and therefore their views can be ignored.</div><div><br /></div><div>It isn't true though that there are only two groups of sex workers and that drug addicts are in the majority. There are many different types. I think that there are 5 main forms of sex work in Britain. It could be that each of them has about 20% of the total number of sex workers.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>1. escorts</b><br />They work for an agency. Customers phone the agency and the sex worker travels to where he is. This could be a hotel room or his flat or house. Escorts are also called call-girls. Some of them specialize in domination. Some of them specialize in 'sugar daddies' - older men.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>2. working from a flat</b><br />Some of them will be independent but not all. Customers find their details on web sites such as Vivastreet. He must phone and make an appointment. Ethnic groups involved in this tend to be Eastern Europeans and Brazilians.</div><div><b><br /></b></div><div><b>3. working in a brothel</b><br />Brothels are often called saunas. Phoning to make an appointment might be encouraged but usually a man just turns up. There could be several women working there and he can choose which one he wants. There may be a pimp or madam involved or the sex workers could be working for themselves. Brothels are illegal even when there is no pimp or madam. Ethnic groups involved in this tend to be British and Eastern European.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>4. massage establishments</b><br />The word 'massage' like the word 'sauna' can be used in the name of a brothel. The massage establishments I am thinking of though provide massage and usually 'extras'. The main extra is 'hand relief' (HR) also called a 'happy ending'. The masseur, after providing a standard massage, will use her hands to bring her customer to orgasm. Another extra is 'body-to-body'. This is where the woman will remove her clothes and rub herself against her customer. She may cover herself with oil and get on top of him. Oral sex and full sex will rarely be on offer. Ethnic groups involved in this tend to be Thai, Chinese and British.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>5. street-based drug addicts</b><br />Not all street-based sex workers are drug addicts and not all drug addicts are street-based. They don't usually give their money to a pimp, they give their money to a drug dealer. It won't always be the same drug dealer but even so drug dealers, pimps and boyfriends often merge into one. The most common drugs are crack cocaine and heroin. Often they also get money from shoplifting. Homelessness is common.</div><div><br /></div><div>When I tell people that drug addicts are a small minority they reply that even if that was so we can't ignore them. We have to criminalise men who pay for sex even if it only benefits the drug addicted minority, so they say. However, the Nordic model doesn't help any type of sex worker. It doesn't get rid of prostitution. It doesn't even reduce it. I have written about this many times on this blog.</div><div><br /></div><div>Not only does it not reduce demand, it also does not help women to exit prostitution. The funds for this never seem to be forthcoming. Also, women continue to be arrested.</div><div><br /></div><div>The way to help drug addicts is not to give them ASBOs or to scare away most of their clients. It is through rehab, and helping them with benefits and housing. Sometimes prescribing opiods helps.</div><div><br /></div><div>So it is clear that no sex worker can be representative of sex workers as a whole. I haven't included Soho walk ups because they are restricted to Soho and Mayfair/Shepherd Market. There is one sex worker in each walk up but two women there (the sex worker and her 'maid'). That makes it safer, working alone in a flat makes rape or robbery more likely. Men just turn up and a popular sex worker has many clients a day, more than any other type of sex work.</div><div><br /></div><div>I haven't included webcam workers because they don't usually have sex with someone on camera although some of them do. Porn stars have sex on camera of course so this is a form of sex work but there can't be that many of them.</div><div><br /></div><div>Stripping, erotic dancing and burlesque aren't included because they are not providing a sexual service. They might be included in the sex industry though. There are many minor forms of sex work. I have read a web site that includes women going aboard ships.</div><div><br /></div><div>In many northern cities teenage British girls have been raped by older men. This isn't prostitution. You may say that many women in prostitution are coerced by violence or threats of violence but this is rare. Addiction is a form of coercion and we know the best way to help them. Destitution could be said to be another but I have never met a destitute woman except for addicts.</div><div><br /></div><div>We have a benefits system. Jobs are available even if they are minimum wage or zero hours contracts. People take them to avoid destitution. Then when they are fed up scrimping and saving some of them turn to sex work. Most women don't.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifCfz0A6v-_pYMXmcZfZKvvDcILOzUlwT6vakvAmxO-6Sp4O2GbE-yI4k7Me3XOST2ZP5KYXPO_wwmyurg1lHEH52kmpVK8OoxIqg0OL9LzMxTUwQ5Xyy37TIuCrjrHpbIxXp-k3Cck3MM5hNHf0TbJ6uqqaPDcX-LohgFy8SgCn11YRGt1rjB_CuUFQ/s500/tumblr_lzyq07FWC61qf6vp1o1_500.gif" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="249" data-original-width="500" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifCfz0A6v-_pYMXmcZfZKvvDcILOzUlwT6vakvAmxO-6Sp4O2GbE-yI4k7Me3XOST2ZP5KYXPO_wwmyurg1lHEH52kmpVK8OoxIqg0OL9LzMxTUwQ5Xyy37TIuCrjrHpbIxXp-k3Cck3MM5hNHf0TbJ6uqqaPDcX-LohgFy8SgCn11YRGt1rjB_CuUFQ/s16000/tumblr_lzyq07FWC61qf6vp1o1_500.gif" /></a></div><br /><br /></div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-72776626989514203592022-07-26T11:22:00.009+01:002024-03-01T12:09:44.235+00:00review of The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry<div>Chapter 7 of this book is about prostitution and I will limit myself to commenting on this. I will deal with three points that she makes. Otherwise it would be a very long post.</div><div><br />Right at the start of the book we have the idea that an archaeologist will say 'a pit of newborn babies' bones was how to spot a brothel'. One wonders what this is to do with the modern world. If you are interested in the remains of newborn babies in the modern world and not the ancient <a href="https://www.irishcentral.com/opinion/cahirodoherty/mass-grave-of-up-to-800-dead-babies-exposed-in-county-galway">you will find them in great quantities in the grounds of a Magdalene laundry</a>. The Magdalene laundries in Ireland where young women and girls were incarcerated. The laundries that would still be there were it not for the changes in attitudes in society which brought about the sexual revolution.</div><div><br />In Chapter 7 on page 147 Louise Perry writes this:-</div><div><i><br />"Decriminalisation or legalisation of the sex industry increases the demand for commercial sex. In countries that have adopted these legal models, the proportion of the male population who have ever bought sex is higher, and the sex tourism industry is larger. Given that the number of women who will willingly enter the sex trade is small, when demand grows, unwilling women must be sought out in order to meet it."</i></div><div><br />Decriminalisation and legalisation are two different legal models. I support the former not the latter. The only country that has adopted decriminalisation is New Zealand, although Belgium has recently adopted it too. In New Zealand demand has not increased. <a href="https://maggiemcneill.com/2011/10/06/the-pigeons-come-home/">Some people say that it has but that is not true.</a> I don't know if it has increased in the Netherlands or Germany. I have not seen evidence of that and Perry offers no evidence.</div><div><br />It is interesting that she uses the phrase 'the proportion of the male population who have ever bought sex'. From my analysis of statistics from Sweden I know that there is a difference between the proportion of men who are active sex buyers and the proportion who have ever bought sex. The proportion of men who were active sex buyers before the Nordic model was 1.3%, after it was introduced it was 1.8%. The proportion of men who had ever bought sex dropped from about 13% to about 8% in the same period.</div><div><br />That is because the proportion who have ever done it will change as older generations become too old to participate in surveys. The cut off age is 74 years old. It will depend on factors such as whether the country was at war or whether they had large scale conscription decades ago. It won't depend on recent changes in law. The proportion of men who are active sex buyers will probably change because of changes in the law but will certainly change because of a financial crisis when men have less money to spend.</div><div><br />When demand grows the existing sex workers make more money. They have more customers and each customer will pay more. It doesn't mean that women will be forced to become sex workers. They may be more incentivised to become sex workers, but that is a different matter.</div><div><br />On page 145 Perry quotes from sociologist Elizabeth Bernstein. These quotes however don't support her assertion that well-paid sex workers are 'highly unrepresentative'. Bernstein quite correctly states that there are two ends of the continuum. There are well-paid sex workers at one end of the continuum and homeless women addicted to crack or heroin who are pimped at the other. That doesn't mean that there are only two types of sex worker, and it doesn't mean that the vast majority are the pimped drug addicts.</div><div><br />In fact we know that drug addicts have never been more than about 15% of the total number of sex workers. That is what Professor Belinda Brooks-Gordon has said*. So does that mean that 85% or more of sex workers are the well-paid sort? That is what you would have to believe if you believed that there are only two types of sex worker. Far from being 'tourists' ie highly unrepresentative, these well paid 'call-girls, escorts, exotic dancers and masseuses' would be the norm.</div><div><br />We know that's not the case though. There are many different categories of sex worker. It isn't true that most working-class women in sex work are drug addicts or pimped. Women who come to Britain from abroad are rarely drug addicts. Most white British working class prostitutes are not drug addicts. There is no 'prostituted class'.</div><div><br />There was a revealing television series called <b>Taken: Hunting the Sex Traffickers</b>. Although they were trying to say that traffickers are evil, they didn't manage to do that. One of the Brazilian sex workers had been arrested and deported. They showed her at the airport returning to Britain to resume her life as a sex worker. She said she wanted money for university. Often women come to Britain so that they can invest in their future.</div><div><br /></div><div>There was an older Brazilian woman who spoke Portuguese and English. Her job was to answer the phone. Every time she directed a punter to one of the sex workers she got £10. The sex workers got £60 or £70. This older woman was prosecuted for being a pimp and a trafficker.</div><div><br />There are thousands of women in Britain from abroad who use their hands for massage and then sometimes use their hands to bring their clients to orgasm. That is all they do. This is the most visible form of prostitution. In the nearest city to me, Liverpool, there are several of these establishments in the centre and even more further out. They are not drug addicts, and often they are saving their money to invest in their future back home.</div><div><br />When Elizabeth Bernstein was writing about pimped drug addicts, it is important to remember that this in America. In America men are prosecuted for paying for sex. Women are prosecuted for selling sex. Yet still prostitution exists in America and is widespread. So how on earth does Louise Perry think that the Nordic model is going to get rid of prostitution? How does she think that she is going to save the drug addicted women of the world?</div><div><br />Drug addicts are helped by rehab. That is the way to help them. Not handing them ASBOs. Not trying to drive away their clients. Not putting all sex work in the hands of organised crime. Benefits and housing are important too. I support spending more money on rehab, benefits and housing. I support welfare workers who ask sex workers what they need. I know that this doesn't happen in Nordic model countries. That is what they promise, help to exit, but as Dr Geoffrey Shannon stated in the official report into the Nordic model in Ireland this has not happened.</div><div><br />The homicide rate for drug addicts is higher. The mortality rate due to drugs or alcohol is higher. Because some prostitutes are drug addicts that can make it seem that prostitution is more dangerous than it really is. Not letting prostitutes work together doesn't help. Not letting them work together means they work alone or for a pimp. That needs to change. It hasn't changed in countries that have adopted the Nordic model.</div><div><br /></div><div>I have written more about this book <a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/p/sexual-revolution.html">here</a>.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbsewKHcTveOP874PTKrQq6xHbYh4b99nKJGd1tPOQ0sNfwg574hooKy9RkLQMPfiUD-zXth0244vbji6x8fu95Fj6uBkmz3bmo13v-AbKqp9LdYAJdRZGC6eIGIc-i86uZ8i55KHVi5kUdHGLxetGoqdT0C9V8Jb3Oc_0nQDYDiyr3y1MXWDwwM4gNA/s499/59852733.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="499" data-original-width="319" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbsewKHcTveOP874PTKrQq6xHbYh4b99nKJGd1tPOQ0sNfwg574hooKy9RkLQMPfiUD-zXth0244vbji6x8fu95Fj6uBkmz3bmo13v-AbKqp9LdYAJdRZGC6eIGIc-i86uZ8i55KHVi5kUdHGLxetGoqdT0C9V8Jb3Oc_0nQDYDiyr3y1MXWDwwM4gNA/s320/59852733.jpg" width="205" /></a></div><div><br />*I can't remember where Professor Belinda Brooks-Gordon wrote this. She is Professor of Forensic Psychology and Public Policy, Department of Psychological Sciences, Birkbeck University. In one of Dr Brooke Magnanti's books she wrote that the estimate is between 5% and 20%. <a href="https://publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201617/cmselect/cmhaff/26/2605.htm">On this page</a> the estimate is between 3% and 25%. We can say that the proportion of sex workers who are street based and drug addicted can't be more than a quarter. Especially when you think that some street based sex workers aren't addicts. It certainly isn't true what Janice Turner wrote in the Times this Saturday <i>"The vast majority of prostitutes ... were abused as children, lured in by pimp-boyfriends and muffle their pain with drugs or alcohol</i>".</div><div><br /></div><div>UPDATE: I have found the statistic. Apparently Belinda Brooks-Gordon said "<i>Lots of people mistakenly think that drug addicts form the majority of people in the sex industry. They do not. They are only a tiny proportion. And on-street prostitution only accounts for about 10 to 15 per cent of all prostitution. Decriminalisation makes it safer for people. It could be made no different to any other forms of business - with age guidelines, health and safety rules and zoning areas.</i>"</div><div><br /></div><div>It was reported in <a href="https://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/scottish-news/pimps-set-up-shop-in-homes-1060337">this newspaper article</a>.</div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-57563057953316536252022-07-25T18:18:00.006+01:002022-07-25T18:59:32.224+01:00Janice Turner in the Times<div>Janice Turner wrote an article in the Times about prostitution published on Saturday. She gave a statistic, if you can call it a statistic, that is false.</div><div><br /></div><div><i>"But research shows men who buy sex are more likely to rape: trading money for consent reduces empathy, makes a man believe only his pleasure counts and increases his likelihood of partner abuse."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>She doesn't give a reference for this research. She seems to have copied what Libby Purves wrote last year also in the Times. You would think that Janice could have asked Libby about this research and checked it before repeating it. You would think that the Times would have made sure that the statistic is correct. It seems though that they don't care that they publish false statistics.</div><div><br /></div><div>I think I know the research that they are talking about. It is <b>Comparing Sex Buyers With Men Who Do Not Buy Sex: New Data on Prostitution and Trafficking</b> by Melissa Farley. I have already written what I think of this research in my posts <a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/2021/11/student-sex-workers.html">student sex workers</a> and <a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/2021/11/more-student-sex-workers.html">more student sex workers</a>.</div><div><br /></div><div>Briefly, I wrote that Farley seems to be withholding information about this study. She doesn't seem to want to tell us whether men who buy sex report that they have raped more often than other men. Even though they were asked this direct question.</div><div><br /></div><div>What I didn't know at the time I wrote this is that Melissa Farley is known for this. Consider this from Ronald Weizer's article <b>The Mythology of Prostitution: Advocacy Research and Public Policy</b>.</div><div><br /></div><div><i>"In trying to make the case that indoor prostitution victimizes women to the same extent as street prostitution, Farley (2006) reported that a British study by Church et al. (2001) found that workers in indoor venues (private residences, saunas) reported more attempted rapes than street workers. In fact, the Church study reported the opposite: that 28% of street workers said they had ever experienced an attempted rape, compared with 17% of indoor workers. Moreover, Farley failed to mention that street prostitutes were 11 times more likely to have actually been raped: According to Church et al., 22% of the street sample compared with only 2% of the indoor sample had ever been raped while at work. This example is a clear case of both inverting and ignoring findings that contradict one's arguments."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>In the article Janice also wrote "<i>It is time that the Nordic model, which decriminalises sex work but makes buying it a crime and has been adopted in France, Ireland and Sweden, is debated in parliament.</i>"</div><div><br /></div><div>What she doesn't seem to know is that it has already been debated in parliament. On 04 July 2018 there was the debate Commercial Sexual Exploitation. You can read what I wrote about it in my page <a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/p/commercial-sexual-exploitation-there-is.html">Commercial Sexual Exploitation</a>. All my pages are displayed on the right of this screen.</div><div><br /></div><div>She wrote "<i>The vast majority of prostitutes are not swinging Belle de Jours but were abused as children, lured in by pimp-boyfriends and muffle their pain with drugs or alcohol</i>". This is just complete rubbish, there is no evidence for this. This isn't even true of drug-addicted street based sex workers. They are a small minority of sex workers anyway.</div><div><br /></div><div>She ends by stating "<i>No man should have impunity when buying a woman’s body, whether out on a stag night or serving his country</i>". I have never bought a woman's body, I have bought a service.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFQJTLy6L1bKChuRVkQbyAU1T-0gjkAcZ9s-aj9iPOD_eIfbsfxLoshTFFJhZHj3EMlHV3BaMyha_pvjh8-cavHHdvQBisS34yiDZXA1t3KY8mieV-zER84rEYyH29CyBJYw4wgPU2Kx3SNngq6xFUpFFNCPXVDFBRU4iUsa5ssUZXN24XOCsuufwpWA/s640/cash%20only.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="640" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFQJTLy6L1bKChuRVkQbyAU1T-0gjkAcZ9s-aj9iPOD_eIfbsfxLoshTFFJhZHj3EMlHV3BaMyha_pvjh8-cavHHdvQBisS34yiDZXA1t3KY8mieV-zER84rEYyH29CyBJYw4wgPU2Kx3SNngq6xFUpFFNCPXVDFBRU4iUsa5ssUZXN24XOCsuufwpWA/s320/cash%20only.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><br /><b></b><i></i><u></u><sub></sub><sup></sup><strike></strike><br /></div><div><br /></div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-62526553570494648522022-07-08T14:40:00.005+01:002022-07-08T15:21:29.677+01:002 new films about sex work<p>There are two new films that are about sex work. Both are positive about it. The first is <b>Good Luck to You, Leo Grande</b> starring Emma Thompson. The second is <b>How to Please a Woman</b> starring Sally Phillips. Both are well-known comedians.</p><p>I found out about the second of these on <b>Woman's Hour</b> this morning. The presenter had no criticism of this film. Someone contacted the show and said how hypocritical they are in saying that men objectify women through prostitution and yet they accept the objectification of men. In both films the sex worker is male. I don't mean trans women, who the Radical Feminists regard as male.</p><p>I can see how the Radical Feminists are going to be critical of both of these films. Objectification means different things to different people. It meant one thing to Radical Feminist authors such as Catharine A MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin. It means something different to the majority of Radical or Revolutionary Feminists. It means something different again to ordinary people.</p><p>To ordinary people it seems to mean having a sexual attraction to someone outside of the context of a relationship. The idea is that a man is incapable of appreciating a woman's personality if he is lusting after her. This is an idea that goes back thousands of years.</p><p>If I have casual sex with a woman, let's say on holiday, am I objectifying her more than if I play a game of tennis with her or a game of chess? Why would sex have that special attribute, different from other activities? If I pay for sex with a woman, am I objectifying her more than if I pay for a taxi driver or a waiter? You can say that sex is different from playing the usual sort of game or working the usual sort of job. That's not answering the question though.</p><p>We use people all the time. We meet people briefly, do something with them, and don't want to get to know them further. Casual sex or paid-for sex could be seen as harmful to women, but that is at the very least an overgeneralisation of women. Not all women are the same. Treating all people in a group as if they are all the same is one aspect of objectification, according to philosopher Martha Nussbaum.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/0ed8defe507c7515d22d7e66e76723dbb597618b/0_156_4800_2881/master/4800.jpg?width=620&quality=85&fit=max&s=f2d15fa7aaccef39c07eaebe0f0af126" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="372" data-original-width="620" height="372" src="https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/0ed8defe507c7515d22d7e66e76723dbb597618b/0_156_4800_2881/master/4800.jpg?width=620&quality=85&fit=max&s=f2d15fa7aaccef39c07eaebe0f0af126" width="620" /></a></div><p>The weird thing is that Emma Thompson has had a lot to say about prostitution over the years. She has signed up to Princess Eugenie's organisation to fight trafficking. We all want to fight trafficking, if by that we mean coercion. However, most prostitution does not involve coercion. Some other forms of work also sometimes involve coercion.</p><p>Other organisations that have associated with Princess Eugenie's crusade are the International Justice Mission, who say they want to release the captives. However, their hidden agenda is to try to stamp out prostitution anywhere in the world, no matter how many women they harm. They are an American Evangelical Christian organisation.</p><p>In the past they have called for and participated in brothel raids in countries such as Cambodia and Thailand. Women are arrested and kept against their will. Most of these women have not been coerced, and so their first experience of imprisonment is in a so-called rescue centre.</p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-21359989724089956662022-07-03T14:48:00.007+01:002022-08-04T14:53:57.293+01:00my day trip to London<div>Encouraged by my pleasurable day trips to Sheffield I decided to make a day trip to London. Sheffield is two hours on the train from Liverpool and London just a bit longer. I wanted to revisit Soho and any erotic encounters with women would be an added pleasure.</div><div><br /></div><div>I could see 8 Greek Street was closed but 2 Greens Court was still open. I went up the stairs but before I even rang the bell I could hear a woman's voice shouting that there's nobody here, come back later. When I went back later the door at street level was closed. I think probably the girl hadn't turned up so the maid had closed the door.</div><div><br /></div><div>The girl's name wasn't outside the door. In the past their names were always outside. If you had a favourite then you could tell if she was there without knocking on the door. I didn't see any names anywhere. I think that the police have decided they shouldn't do it. I don't know why. I would have liked to see Poppy's name outside, she was the best.</div><div><br /></div><div>I went up the stairs at 4 Greens Court. There was a young woman there who seemed Eastern European. Quite pretty but short. She gave me a nice smile and showed me the list of services. The cheapest one was £30. In the past it was nearly always £20. I'm glad they have increased the prices, they deserve more. She mentioned the £2 tip for the maid. I had forgotten all about that. I told her that I didn't have any change (which was true) and that I would come back later (which I knew I probably wouldn't).</div><div><br /></div><div>One of the places I used to go was Little Newport Street so I made my way through Chinatown and went up the stairs. There was a nice Thai lady there and I decided to stay. I had sex with her, with all the noise of the street outside. The sounds from the street didn't put me off, in fact I quite liked them, the idea that there were people outside who had no idea what was happening a few feet away. The idea that you can step off the street and within minutes be looking at a naked woman who opens her legs for you.</div><div><br /></div><div>Later I wanted to see another woman. In Peter Street was a lovely young blonde woman. I could have said girl because she looked about 20 but later she said she was 30. She is from Bulgaria. She has a very nice figure and a nice face. This is I feel what most men would go for. Young, slender and blonde. I got on top of her and shagged her.</div><div><br /></div><div>It was a similar experience to the Thai lady. No name on the door, the same £30 for ten minutes, the same friendly smiles and conversation. There was something else that was the same too. When I was putting on my clothes both of them had sat on the bidet and washed their genitals. Both naked apart from their stockings. I found it very sexy. I realise that most men won't. That's a little kink of mine. I would have liked to photograph them on the bidet. Their faces wouldn't be seen.</div><div><br /></div><div>Before I saw the blonde girl I had to wait. She was with another customer. The maid let me sit with her and her friend. She wanted the money from me before I saw the girl but assured me that she was beautiful. When I said I wanted the basic £30 service she said "<i>Are you sure you wouldn't like a blowjob?</i>". I could have asked them anything but all I could think to ask was if 8 Greek Street has closed permanently. She told me it had closed a long time ago, before the pandemic.</div><div><br /></div><div>I would say about half of the walk ups have closed. I could have done more research before I went - finding the best girls and places - but I've never been good at planning in advance. There was a third woman in Lisle Street but the less said about her the better. Then it was time to go home.</div><div><br /></div><div>I spent the same amount of money in Soho as I had in Sheffield. £90. Each sexual encounter in Sheffield cost £45, but it was for half an hour, not ten minutes. So Soho is not good value for money, even if you are able to orgasm within ten minutes using a normal thick condom. I expect most men spend more than the minimum £30.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiME1ij38Jy_ejn6KmmcfD6uowdmhNPn_11TkF98gT3-yj_YT4vxqnTMH0rg2uI7K2oUcMUrPb_NkgdCOaYn3_NtYxkiD-MrYIFrkxcXTNnlZTYkfPZCmgU6lW5VlBbAgvymLYWvr1m6RDYtzQlwV3gzGy8wpcFQiaObhD0oYMhhnAVVeasAIcCUp1nyA/s600/AAA.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="428" data-original-width="600" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiME1ij38Jy_ejn6KmmcfD6uowdmhNPn_11TkF98gT3-yj_YT4vxqnTMH0rg2uI7K2oUcMUrPb_NkgdCOaYn3_NtYxkiD-MrYIFrkxcXTNnlZTYkfPZCmgU6lW5VlBbAgvymLYWvr1m6RDYtzQlwV3gzGy8wpcFQiaObhD0oYMhhnAVVeasAIcCUp1nyA/s16000/AAA.jpg" title="plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose" /></a></div>UPDATE: I have since found out that 8 Greek Street has not closed. I was told something that was not true.</div><div><br /></div><div>Some of you may be wondering if I found any culinary delights in Soho. Yes I did. I found a new chain that do salt beef. It is Tongue & Brisket in Wardour Street. When I lived in London I would sometimes have salt beef in Brick Lane or Selfridges Foodhall.</div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-49529222756661776622022-07-01T11:48:00.001+01:002022-07-01T12:37:47.955+01:00another day trip to Sheffield<div>I enjoyed myself in Sheffield so I decided to go again. I enjoyed it even more this time. Before taking the tram to paradise I thought I would have a look at Sheffield's indoor market. It was more interesting than the Winter Gardens I looked at last time. There were lots of food options and I chose a Nepalese curry.</div><div><br />I decided to go to City Sauna to begin with. Jenni off the telly was there. There were two sex workers. One was the tattooed lady who had been there on my previous visit. There was also Charlotte. I chose Charlotte. She is an older lady, quite tall and attractive. She smiles and talks a lot. She has black hair done up and wears stockings. I shagged her for a while but didn't manage to orgasm despite her best efforts.</div><div><br />She tried to wank me off. They know that wanking over tits works for most men. It doesn't work for me. I tried to wank myself but that didn't work either.</div><div><br />Honeypot has a good reputation so I went there. It wasn't so easy to find. The entrance is not in Attercliffe Road, it is in Worksop Road. It does have 774A in big letters on the front though. I went up the stairs and rang the bell. An old woman answered the door and explained that there was a man with the sex worker and another one waiting. She said I could come back later. I think she said the sex worker's name was Jessica. I thought Jessica seems to be very popular.</div><div><br />I thought I will have a look at the other brothels nearby. I could see Athena Massage and Diplomat clearly. There's supposed to be another one nearby called Escorts but I couldn't see it. Athena and Diplomat are a couple of doors away from each other and with both of them the entrance is at the back. I went into the alleyway at the back and thought about what to do next. Neither of these places has a good reputation.<br /> <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRIyo5gyqRMOhGXUBQMm65UkcJONa8nAyVuclEw4ycABWIUOOER9T9x2MjZTuXzvWlgoyU8ofkzCOlBhAJS0Jcn-cxayCRufu1s9nPKtNrk81CWP3liyy6NAzOmCzOtjjS008fLJkrcmdVzUSuOOvJqtrroYNjz2DcPj_tXtsxx67_S0ugHwrsxco0dA/s800/diplomat%202.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="600" data-original-width="800" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRIyo5gyqRMOhGXUBQMm65UkcJONa8nAyVuclEw4ycABWIUOOER9T9x2MjZTuXzvWlgoyU8ofkzCOlBhAJS0Jcn-cxayCRufu1s9nPKtNrk81CWP3liyy6NAzOmCzOtjjS008fLJkrcmdVzUSuOOvJqtrroYNjz2DcPj_tXtsxx67_S0ugHwrsxco0dA/w400-h300/diplomat%202.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">is this the seediest alleyway in Britain?</td></tr></tbody></table><br />I decided to go into Diplomat. I don't know why. It seemed quite nice, there was a bar and at the other end of the room were sofas with four women. One was a big black woman who was in charge. There were a couple of bored looking young women looking at their smart phones. And there was Alec.</div><div><br />Alec is an attractive blonde. She has a natural beauty but has a couple of tattoos, what look like enhanced breasts, and lips that might have been enhanced too. I thought she looked as if she could be a student. Later in the room I could see she was probably older than that but it was a wonderful experience. She is very friendly. I shagged her for a while but wasn't getting any further than I had with Charlotte. She seemed to be enjoying it, at one point she was playing with her clit while I was shagging her.</div><div><br />I don't like to ask if I can use one of my ultra-thin condoms. Usually the answer is no. I felt I could ask Alec. She asked to see them and then said that would be fine. So we put one on, I got back on top of her, and after a couple of minutes I had a powerful orgasm.</div><div><br />Alec took me downstairs to the bar and gave me a bottle of water from the fridge to take out with me. She's such a thoughtful nice girl. It wasn't a hot and humid day that day, unlike my previous trip, which I think was part of the problem.</div><div><br />Another thing that has happened to me is that I have found out one of the places where some of my favourite sex workers go to. I like to go to Rock Ferry Thai Massage near Birkenhead. I have a few favourites such as Joy. She works there some of the time but most of the time at other places.</div><div><br /></div><div>Somewhere in Manchester is one place. Now I know that there is a flat in Southport. I went there a few days ago. The woman I saw, who will be there for a couple of weeks, was nice but I don't want to see her again.</div><div><br />I am planning a day trip to London. I intend to head straight to Greens Court in Soho to see if Poppy is still working there. I doubt it but I'll try there first. Then maybe head to Greek Street to find if they are still open.</div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-78690544774737602252022-06-18T22:04:00.004+01:002022-06-20T16:42:09.501+01:00my day trip to Sheffield<div>Last year I went to Manchester on a day trip. In previous years I went to Manchester often. I won't be going again. Last time was a disapointment, with many brothels I knew closed. I thought that I would try Sheffield. It's a bit further than Manchester but not too far. There are quite a few brothels in Sheffield, most of them along the Attercliffe Road.</div><div><br />I watched a TV series about one of these brothels. The series was called A Very British Brothel. The brothel - City Sauna - is run by a mother and daughter. They had another series called A Very Yorkshire Brothel. I thought the episodes were good, showing sex work as it mostly really is. The people at the Nordic Model Now! site were up in arms about it and made a complaint to ITV. '<i>They are concerned that women might be encouraged into prostitution on the basis of the programme.</i>'</div><div><br />I thought it might be nice to go there. However, my research showed me that their place is not the best place to go in Sheffield. The best place seems to be GFE. I thought that I can go to Sheffield by train and have a look around the town centre, including Sheffield Winter Gardens. Then after lunch I could get a tram to Meadowhall South/Tinsley and walk to GFE. I expected there to be some young slender women there. I could enjoy spending time with one of them then perhaps go on to somewhere else that has the older fatter women that I prefer.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikGfMUadCpGlWH7-frOLb-KoaIn0wHJNaJtpuGPYuB1i1De_-It_MOU13QySxccVcLeNlbO4eQHMTdSE2yUx6JIUBujfAPgOs2mXAyx18DSj9BzEOoqNU649hnwRNiM4S9yqDATwwsM_0SwQmMshgu3ilAJe27WTPIDWMBZsaFO55oBc6dvNUnVcIJKQ/s400/a_very_yorkshire_brothel_uk%5B1%5D.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="300" data-original-width="400" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikGfMUadCpGlWH7-frOLb-KoaIn0wHJNaJtpuGPYuB1i1De_-It_MOU13QySxccVcLeNlbO4eQHMTdSE2yUx6JIUBujfAPgOs2mXAyx18DSj9BzEOoqNU649hnwRNiM4S9yqDATwwsM_0SwQmMshgu3ilAJe27WTPIDWMBZsaFO55oBc6dvNUnVcIJKQ/s320/a_very_yorkshire_brothel_uk%5B1%5D.jpg" title="a nice Yorkshire pudding" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div>I think everyone who goes to GFE goes by car. It is easy though to get there by public transport, if you know how and don't get lost. You can walk along the canal from the tram stop a short distance and come out on the little road called Sheffield Road.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLTnXrsmi7l0Q-CQ09nXjDzIJ1xi8ve7vDi84xT8W_fxERt2pjYAs92sngDKuKP5wEcOEHceosvMEbypnsxjuWWcWs0F9RGjSZV2Jy-nxM0YJudJk5-xx2bopATdC3jNPfdELakQIa0KIlTPpls6-w4XKLuqEVyw2qu6vmHToETqRD-mjvOIuw22J41A/s800/Photo0083%20(3).jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="600" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLTnXrsmi7l0Q-CQ09nXjDzIJ1xi8ve7vDi84xT8W_fxERt2pjYAs92sngDKuKP5wEcOEHceosvMEbypnsxjuWWcWs0F9RGjSZV2Jy-nxM0YJudJk5-xx2bopATdC3jNPfdELakQIa0KIlTPpls6-w4XKLuqEVyw2qu6vmHToETqRD-mjvOIuw22J41A/s320/Photo0083%20(3).jpg" width="240" /></a></div><br /><div>I went in and there was a man sitting behind a desk. That was different from what I'm used to. I asked him how many girls there are there today and he replied that there are three ladies. I had to give him £20. I can't remember if this was before or after I got to see the women. All of them were indeed young and mostly slender. There were two blondes but I chose the smaller black-haired girl. I thought she looked like she would be more friendly.</div><div><br />The man said I had to give the other £30 to the lady in the room, he had already explained that prices begin at £50. Millie led me to the room, chatting to me while she did so. I gave her £30 and she asked me to have a quick shower. On the bed she didn't seem to want to take her top off but was happy for me to look at and feel her pussy. I got on top of her and enjoyed looking at her pretty face. She told me she has Italian and Maltese ancestry as well as English.</div><div><br />After I made my way back to the tram stop which didn't take long. I got off somewhere near Attercliffe Road. I found City Sauna and went in. The daughter who I had seen in the TV series - Jenni - was there. I asked her how many girls she has there today. She said only one. There was a woman sitting on a sofa with lots of tattoos and a shaved head. I'm sure she must be some type of woman but I'm not sure what type but not my type. I said I'll leave it.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQlaBBJ3cZfmbr0fysb_jT8Ax-A1HCMf6h-cbNgUhf2r1fSIbY8zFfHaheWVJHHt1obDkI0-bFizoq-YLCP51CLwp4lzoz_i1gcNxA0QBQyX-DXGz98iut7lpugZ9zbsWUFBKzL6OWUhDCCk5vjHxViD9Xt9BIMk9ZPjR146qwmBRJ5XdoRtAJ28W4iQ/s800/Photo0084%20(4).jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="600" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQlaBBJ3cZfmbr0fysb_jT8Ax-A1HCMf6h-cbNgUhf2r1fSIbY8zFfHaheWVJHHt1obDkI0-bFizoq-YLCP51CLwp4lzoz_i1gcNxA0QBQyX-DXGz98iut7lpugZ9zbsWUFBKzL6OWUhDCCk5vjHxViD9Xt9BIMk9ZPjR146qwmBRJ5XdoRtAJ28W4iQ/s320/Photo0084%20(4).jpg" title="this is a local shop for local people" width="240" /></a></div><br /><div><br />The funny thing is there were men sitting on other sofas in the same room. My guess is that there were other women there and these men were waiting for them to become available - having declined the offer of the tattooed lady.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1DU5iTYO8X2UqoGQYWK2Uq5_cQOEK0g53rhfFqBwUgNRNgU5KOg9B4DKx7KK0hoEozWStXl5nq-wwDzykTftZZ08veFOXIQu6BY0xCI20ALN646T8M9y6HVw0jipEmzyNjrCI19MQZApe9MkNjK7unI8v2X8BMLzo7x9oEecaVsBPrZz-_ernuz_8TA/s1200/Photo0085%20(3).jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="900" data-original-width="1200" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1DU5iTYO8X2UqoGQYWK2Uq5_cQOEK0g53rhfFqBwUgNRNgU5KOg9B4DKx7KK0hoEozWStXl5nq-wwDzykTftZZ08veFOXIQu6BY0xCI20ALN646T8M9y6HVw0jipEmzyNjrCI19MQZApe9MkNjK7unI8v2X8BMLzo7x9oEecaVsBPrZz-_ernuz_8TA/s320/Photo0085%20(3).jpg" title="this is a local shop for local people" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div>Opposite City Sauna is another brothel called Pandoras. A sign said the entrance is at the back. I could see two doors at the back but they both seemed locked. Perhaps Pandoras opens later or maybe it has closed. I wanted to go to Honeypot further along Attercliffe Road because it has almost as good a reputation as GFE. I couldn't find it though because I had copied the number down incorrectly.</div><div><br />I found Caesars in Stanley Street easily enough. A woman spoke to me through a tiny hatch. She wanted me to give her £30 through the hatch. I asked how many girls she has and she said there is her and there is an Albanian girl. All I could see were her hands. She seemed to be African. I walked away. Finally I found Paradise Studio. The place seemed not only closed but abandoned. A large window had been smashed.</div><div><br />My conclusion is that the brothels of Sheffield are in decline. GFE was good and good value for money at £50. I think most men spend more there than £50. I would have liked to ask Millie what perversions she negotiates with her clients. She's not as innocent as she can look.<br /></div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-3202902806522391332022-06-18T21:38:00.007+01:002022-06-20T15:47:35.618+01:00the Scottish government and the Nordic model<div>I found out recently that the Scottish government refuses to fund any women's sector organisation unless they accept that prostitution is a form of violence. Organisations have to sign up to the Equally Safe strategy or they won't get any money. The Scottish government also refuse to use the term 'sex work'.</div><div><br />The theory that prostitution is a form of violence against women and girls comes from Radical Feminist ideology. They say that a woman can't truly consent to sex with a man in a patriarchal society. If you accept this ideology then prostitution is not only violence it is also rape but all forms of heterosexual sex are rape too. You can't just apply the theory to prostitution.</div><div><br />The Scottish government think that they are using an accepted intellectual theory but there is no intellectual justification for it. They don't explain where this theory comes from, people are just expected to accept it, even though it's not the genuine theory. That's quite disturbing. Also, I can't find out who in the government brought in this policy: I would like to know if they are Radical Feminists or Evangelical Christians.</div><div><br />The Scottish government are copying what socially conservative Americans have done. President Bush reinstated the Mexico City Policy, also known as the 2001 Global Gag Rule. It banned NGOs from receiving funding if they are pro choice about abortion. Then in 2003 USAID stopped funding any group perceived to be encouraging sex work, including HIV outreach groups. A literacy class for Thai sex workers was denied funding.</div><div><br />In 2003 the Bush administration passed a Global AIDS bill that prohibits international agencies from receiving funds unless they explicitly sign an oath that they do not support or condone prostitution and that no funds will be going toward harm prevention among sex workers. See <b>Running from the Rescuers</b>: New U.S. Crusades Against Sex Trafficking and the Rhetoric of Abolition by Gretchen Soderlund.</div><div><br />It seems that the Scottish government is preparing itself to introduce the Nordic model into Scotland. That would be foolish because the official report into the effectiveness of the Nordic model in Northern Ireland shows that it has not reduced demand. There have been three reports into the effectiveness of the Nordic model in the Irish republic and none of them say there has been a reduction in demand.</div><div><br />I have been looking at books about women and violence. I looked at <b>Enough</b>: The Violence Against Women And How To End It by Harriet Johnson. As far as I can tell it has nothing to say about prostitution. It doesn't have an index but none of the chapter headings are about prostitution. It seems Harriet Johnson doesn't think prostitution is violence if it doesn't even get a mention.</div><div><br />I looked at <b>Equal Power </b>by Jo Swinson. She was the leader of the Liberal Democratic party. In Jo Swinson's book she writes about Sreypov Chan, who was 'sold into slavery in Cambodia as a seven-year-old girl'. "<i>When she refused her first client, the pimp crushed up hot chilli peppers and pushed them into her vagina, then thrust a hot metal poker inside her.</i>" As an adult Srepoy Chan worked as an advocacy officer for the Somaly Mam Foundation.</div><div><br />Somaly Mam claimed to have been a sex slave and got others to make the same false claims. Long Pross and Meas Ratha were two of the girls who we know made false claims, and Sreypov Chan is another. Thomas Steinfatt has been looking into prostitution in Cambodia for a long time and has said that he has never encountered genuine instances of torture. Steinfatt has conducted research that shows coercion is not common.</div><div><br />So that's the fictional violence. What about the real violence against women in Cambodia? Sex workers are arrested by the police then held against their will in 'rescue' centres for months. Kept in poor conditions, there a near-total lack of psychological care for traumatized girls, an absence of meaningful job-training programs, and a blatant disregard for the young women’s privacy. One former worker said it was “<i>like there was a revolving door for tourists and camera crews. It was like a zoo</i>.”</div><div><br />American Evangelical organisations such as the International Justice Mission have conducted brothel raids in countries including Cambodia. The women they capture try to run away. IJM is funded by the American government. It would be good if the Biden administration stopped all funding to these organisations. It would help women more than the Scottish government refusing to fund good organisations such as Scot-Pep.</div><div><br />Jo Swinson learned about trafficking from Marie Claire magazine. Perhaps that is where Princess Eugenie learned about it too. She and one of her chums (Julia de Boinville) have teamed up to fight trafficking. It is clear that they support organisations such as the International Justice Mission and people like Nicholas Kristof. They are not doing good work helping women around the world, they are harming them. Instead of interviewing people like Kristof and the guy who made the <b>Taken</b> television series, they should interview people like Emily Kenway. At least they should read academics like Shelley Cavalieri and Gretchen Soderlund, who I have quoted below.</div><div><br />Below I have quoted from <b>Between Victim and Agent</b>: A Third-Way Feminist Account of Trafficking for Sex Work by Shelley Cavalieri.</div><div><br /><i>In May 2003, law enforcement officers raided a brothel in Chiang Mai, the capital of the northern region of Thailand and the regional center for the many indigenous peoples or hill tribes that populate the surrounding mountains. They conducted this raid at the behest of a coalition of Thai non-governmental organizations and an American evangelical Christian organization </i>[International Justice Mission]<i>. The American organization, with funding from the U.S. government and in conjunction with the Thai non-governmental organizations, was dedicated to investigating and reporting brothels with children inside to the authorities, and tried to persuade the police to shut down such locales. The particular brothel raided in this story was a brothel like many others in the country, filled with ethnically Shan women from Burma. Most of the women were of the age of majority, but while accounts vary, some organizations asserted that there were teenagers working in the brothel as well. How these teenagers reached the brothel is unclear; the organizations claiming that teenage girls were there also asserted that the girls’ presence could not be voluntary due to their age and that the girls were victims of human trafficking. </i></div><i></i><div><i><br />The coalition of organizations effected what they termed a “rescue” of the women in the brothel because of the believed presence of children. What followed was a human rights debacle. Twenty-eight women and girls, most of whom were, by all accounts, adults, were involuntarily detained beyond the period of time that victims of trafficking may be confined under Thai law. They were not arrested or charged with crimes, but detained, according to the authorities, because they had been rescued from a situation of human trafficking. They were deprived of access to their belongings and saved earnings, which were locked inside the inaccessible brothel under police control; they never regained ownership of these possessions. After a lengthy period of time, the government deported many of these women to Burma. All of these actions, which the women experienced as both harmful and alienating, occurred under the guise of rescuing them from the brothel in which they worked.</i></div><i></i><div><i><br />According to social services workers who interviewed four women who escaped from the brothel as the police arrived, all of the women were ethnic Shan from Burma and were at least nineteen years of age at the time of the raid. Prior to immigrating to Thailand, their status as members of the Burmese Shan indigenous group rendered these women subject to summary detention and rape at any time at the hands of officers of the Burmese junta. Faced with the option of abuse by the authorities in a region of Burma overwhelmed by poverty, many Shan women chose, and continue to choose, to cross the mountains that demarcate the Thai-Burma border and move to a Thai city to work in a brothel. This choice has a certain logic, as forced labor, forced relocations, and food shortages remain an endemic problem in Burma. For many, work in a Thai brothel presented the opportunity to escape the repression of the Burmese junta and to send adequate money home in order to support families, educate children, and maintain households. From the perspective of these women, that they at times paid people to facilitate their passage to Thailand was merely incidental.</i></div><i></i><div><i><br />Further, the women who escaped the brothel prior to the raid claimed that they, like the women “rescued” in this particular scenario, and like many other Shan sex workers in Thailand, worked in the brothel of their own volition. According to these women, they were free to come and go as they liked; they were not subject to physical restraint in any way. They were not in debt bondage in the traditional sense of the phrase, although some did at times take pay advances from the brothel manager to travel home and back; they would repay such advances with a portion of their earnings over time, much like a loan against future paychecks that some workplaces offer in the United States. Yet from the perspective of the American evangelical organization doing this work, the women in the brothel, particularly the minors, needed to be rescued from the brothel. According to the IJM employee with whom I spoke during the summer following the raid, as all of the women had traveled across borders and left their communities to work in the sex industry, they qualified as exploited women in need of assistance, even when they personally denied that they experienced harm in the brothels. That they may have paid others to facilitate their migration was presented as further evidence of their exploitation.</i></div><i></i><div><br />Below I have quoted from <b>Running from the Rescuers</b>: New U.S. Crusades Against Sex Trafficking and the Rhetoric of Abolition by Gretchen Soderlund.</div><div><br /><i>Journalist Maggie Jones’s interviews with safe house managers indicate that shelter escapes are commonplace in areas where anti-trafficking groups are currently targeting their efforts (2003). The manager of the Phnom Penh home that took in the 37 prostitutes after the Dateline initiated raids reported to Jones that at least 40 percent of the women and girls taken to his shelter escape and return to work in Svay Pak’s brothels. Indeed, six of the teens taken by MSNBC/IJM had run away from the home within a week of the televised busts. When Phil Marshall of the United Nations Project on Human Trafficking in Southeast Asia’s Mekong Region was asked by Jones what he thought of current rehabilitation strategies, he said he had “never seen an issue where there is less interest in hearing from those who are most affected by it” (Jones 2003,1). In 2003, Empower, a sex workers’ advocacy program, issued a report documenting a brothel raid in Chiang Mai, Thailand conducted by International Justice Mission in which several of the 28 arrested (or “rescued,” in abolitionist parlance) Burmese women escaped from a local institution in the first 24 hours. According to Empower, the raid—conducted ostensibly for humanitarian purposes—took on many of the same features as a criminal arrest:</i></div><i></i><blockquote dir="ltr" style="margin-right: 0px;"><div style="text-align: left;"><i><br />As soon as they had their mobile phones returned [the] women contacted Empower. They are only permitted to use their phones for a short time each evening and must hide in the bathroom to take calls outside that time. They report that they have been subjected to continual interrogation and coercion by Trafcord [an anti-trafficking NGO formed in 2002 with U.S. financial support]. Women understand that if they continue to maintain that they want to remain in Thailand and return to work that they will be held in the Public Welfare Boys Home or [a] similar institution until they recant. Similarly, they understand that refusing to be witnesses against their “traffickers” will further delay their release. (Empower 2003)</i></div></blockquote><i></i><div><i><br />By the end of the month, more than half of the women had escaped from the shelter. What does it mean that so-called sex slaves often thwart rescue attempts? Is it intellectually and ethically responsible to call every instance of a practice “slavery” when many women involved demonstratively reject the process of protection and rehabilitation, and when they escape from supposed rescuers who aim to force them out of a life of prostitution (“captivity”) and into a life of factory work or employment in the low-paying service sector (“freedom”)?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjK-eZxcUmfn7UJKHTf6jvQrEkVG0y3p_nqsobqx_pEfNvYfmEgmqlI7sUlr41pExtYcdDQWFXxceYgjLP3B7Pxp6s4uqOhqkfqfq1aN21ADZm3sGLmUNFehqFvwBOleLQvh-eLeRakYhA4bgeLP9--3wjds8uOEG3eTjDMRGeFTXiv-abLhywU-_hQYg/s719/princess.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="377" data-original-width="719" height="336" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjK-eZxcUmfn7UJKHTf6jvQrEkVG0y3p_nqsobqx_pEfNvYfmEgmqlI7sUlr41pExtYcdDQWFXxceYgjLP3B7Pxp6s4uqOhqkfqfq1aN21ADZm3sGLmUNFehqFvwBOleLQvh-eLeRakYhA4bgeLP9--3wjds8uOEG3eTjDMRGeFTXiv-abLhywU-_hQYg/w640-h336/princess.jpg" title="Princess Eugenie says get back to the garment factory" width="640" /></a></div><br /></i></div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-30188668853586472412022-05-07T11:59:00.001+01:002022-05-07T11:59:34.898+01:00finding out about good places<div>I decided that I would go to Rock Ferry Thai Massage once a month this year. I can avoid spending too much money by limiting myself to one paid-for sex session each month. Rock Ferry Thai Massage is not the cheapest brothel but it's nearer to me than other places. It's worth the small amount more because I nearly always have a nice time there.</div><div><br />It has worked out quite well for me so far. In January I had sex with Emma. She's older but I was attracted to her. In February I had sex with Maya. She's middle-aged but that's what I like best. I took a viagra one and a half hours before going. I used their condoms instead of my own thinner ones. Even so I didn't have any problems having an orgasm with either of them.</div><div><br />Things didn't work out so well in March. Sometimes I think I might be bipolar. When I am slightly manic it works out well but when I am slightly depressive I don't orgasm. I saw several women in March, at Rock Ferry Thai Massage and at other places.</div><div><br />April and May have been the best months yet. In April I saw Maya again. She was even more friendly than when I saw her in February. She was talking about her life. She said that after a week or two in Rock Ferry she goes to Manchester. There is somewhere Victoria station. I think she might have said it is a hotel. Then after a week or two she goes somewhere else and then she has a holiday.</div><div><br />One of the places I went to in March was a brothel in Liverpool called Christys. I have posted about it before. It is also called 69 and it is near to Aintree racecourse. I just turned up there and I was surprised because a new fence has been erected where the steps lead up to the top floor flat. When I rang the doorbell I could see that the flat was being redecorated. Becky answered the door and told me there weren't any 'girls' there that day. They would be open tomorrow. I said to Becky that I would leave it a couple of days then come back.</div><div><br />Christys was always a bit of a dump. My first review of it was negative. Then I got to like the place. However, she seemed to have big problems getting women to come and work for her. Often I would phone and there would be no 'girls' there. She told me she lost contact with Jodie, who was my favourite. So she can't have been making much of a profit. All the more surprising that she would be willing to spend the money to redecorate.</div><div><br />In April I was ready to go back. I wanted to see what she had made of the place. However, when I phoned Becky she told me there were no girls there. I said shall I phone back later in the week. She said I could if I wanted. I could have gone there and had sex with Becky but I decided to go to Rock Ferry instead.</div><div><br />Good thing I did because there was a delightful young woman there. She is tall with a very nice figure. I will call her 'Coke' which is not her real name. I saw her again the next week and we had a snog together. She probably doesn't do that with all her customers so I don't want men turning up to see her expecting a snog when that is at her discretion.</div><div><br />Both times with Coke I had an orgasm. The second time with all the snogging was even better. Afterwards I could see that she wasn't quite as young as I had thought. She looks in her 20s but if you look closer she could be 40. I make a note of the women I have sex with and give the experience a score out of 5. The first time with Coke was 5 and the second time I had to increase the scale and go up to 6.</div><div><br />I didn't ask Coke if I could snog her. It's just something that happened. At one point she put her tongue in my mouth. I did ask her if she wanted me to lick her pussy. Straight away she said yes, so I did. She doesn't like thin condoms though, which is fair enough. I'm going to phone up next week and if Coke or Joy are there I will go again. My money saving strategy has gone out the window. Coke told me Joy might be there, I saw Joy twice last year, she is very nice and told me I can use thin condoms.</div><div><br />On an internet forum I have been finding out about different things. I wanted to find out about Christys. I wanted to know if anyone had been there since the redecoration. I wanted to know what's going on there: has it turned into some kind of sex club where debauchery of many kinds occurs behind closed doors? Somebody said that it's probably just that Becky will be working there on her own now. Perhaps that makes it legal so no chance of being closed down so why not spend money on the place? Especially because she lives there and will want it to be nice.</div><div><br />I have also been finding out about a flat not far from Rock Ferry Thai Massage. I have told you about it before. Different Thai women use the flat for a week or two. Some offer full sex, some only offer massage and hand relief. There was a ladyboy there recently. I've found out that the way to find out who is there is to go onto the adultwork site and type in 'Birkenhead'. The Thai girl that comes up will probably be working from there. You have to book, you can't just turn up there like you can with Rock Ferry Thai Massage.</div><div><br />There is a new Thai massage place in New Ferry/Bebington. There used to be a seedy brothel round the corner from it called The Penthouse but that seems to have closed permanently. Most Thai massage places in the Wirral don't do anything sexual, but apparently this place does hand relief. It's called Tongdee. I won't be going there. There's only one place I want to go now.</div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhUoD5ihRQMMsNBkMrj2-9mo4px9bhVQUpng5sWpI-sVPAbiFdSfZNX4GuQJfg3UXhKndFvXuVgpFjwrwRhvwIlaITQvqiDb-sGfkIdfbPlSWvuzhf2A6Wf180nhAOU0QN0qFoELgCeXgufXzuBHgTURPebUwKdhaKbfQgsCMF0VBgvlL_lDR18ClcRQ/s1024/$_86.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="1024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhUoD5ihRQMMsNBkMrj2-9mo4px9bhVQUpng5sWpI-sVPAbiFdSfZNX4GuQJfg3UXhKndFvXuVgpFjwrwRhvwIlaITQvqiDb-sGfkIdfbPlSWvuzhf2A6Wf180nhAOU0QN0qFoELgCeXgufXzuBHgTURPebUwKdhaKbfQgsCMF0VBgvlL_lDR18ClcRQ/s320/$_86.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br />Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-62806833163876716112022-04-09T15:10:00.004+01:002022-04-09T15:10:45.289+01:00Natasha Walter and Mary Whitehouse<p> In my last post I said that I had listened to a radio programme about Mary Whitehouse, the anti-pornography campaigner. Since then I have watched both episodes of a television documentary about her. In the second part the anti-censorship campaigner Nicolas Walter was mentioned. Then his daughter Natasha was interviewed.</p><p>She said she now believes that her father was naive. The permissive society was a mistake. I did<a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/2013/04/living-dolls-and-sex-myth.html"> a post about her</a> in 2013. In her book <i>Living Dolls</i> she writes that the number of sexual assaults increased in Camden Town in London after lap-dancing clubs opened. This is totally false. Dr Brooke Magnanti in two of her books (<i>The Sex Myth</i> and <i>Sex Lies & Statistics</i>) shows how this is false.</p><p>So who is the one who is naive? She is naive for believing all of the false statistics. It seems more and more obvious now that the reason why some people want to end prostitution is because it is a form of promiscuity. They hate punters like me because we are promiscuous. They want to roll back the permissive society.</p><p>That is the real reason: nothing to do with compassion for prostitutes.</p><p>Another thing they don't realise in their naivety that promiscuity is nothing new. It didn't start in the 1960s. You only have to think about the people around Winston Churchill. Women such as Daisy Fellowes and Doris Castlerosse. Or the Prince of Wales with all of his mistresses (the one who became briefly Edward VIII). Rich people have always been promiscuous.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJqjlryp56MZ31tvB-QrJckB0vKPPHgqfnrndAOEkjeUtqUJnKYPvcfej2u-X6Gi4IjrZi9D0WVtGXi17DxeUlN1YTCGwltz_3IZm310g5-E5hlG0Kg_hQqjJqF7VdrJJLDydqaaJFURxIBt4c7BxVHLRGIJRwPjKdsb8cD8PDr0KEXGDO0riqwGxpKQ/s92/download.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="92" data-original-width="92" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJqjlryp56MZ31tvB-QrJckB0vKPPHgqfnrndAOEkjeUtqUJnKYPvcfej2u-X6Gi4IjrZi9D0WVtGXi17DxeUlN1YTCGwltz_3IZm310g5-E5hlG0Kg_hQqjJqF7VdrJJLDydqaaJFURxIBt4c7BxVHLRGIJRwPjKdsb8cD8PDr0KEXGDO0riqwGxpKQ/s16000/download.jpg" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-26752957714343064632022-03-05T12:29:00.008+00:002023-07-26T15:59:57.574+01:00pornography and violence<p>This blog is not about pornography. However, I came across some recent research about pornography and violence that I would like to share with you. It is <b>Pornography and Sexual Aggression: Can Meta-Analysis Find a Link?</b> The main conclusion is that "<i>evidence did not suggest that nonviolent pornography was associated with sexual aggression</i>". They found a weak link with violent pornography, but didn't know if this is just because violent people select violent pornography. This is especially interesting: "<i>Population studies suggested that increased availability of pornography is associated with reduced sexual aggression at the population level</i>".</p><p>So what journalist Libby Purves wrote recently in The Times is untrue. She wrote "<i>Yet research across the world makes it clear that selling sex is not only an immediate risk but reduces the safety of all women. Men who buy it, whether online or physically, are significantly more likely than other men to rape or commit other violence against women.</i>" I'm not sure what she means by 'online' as opposed to 'physically', but it seems she is talking about pornography.</p><p>She doesn't give a reference for this 'research across the world' but it seems that she means the research done by Melissa Farley. I have dealt with this in a previous post. I am offended by the false allegation that someone like me 'reduces the safety of all women'. It is prudish journalists with their false statistics who endanger the safety of women: you can't have good laws based on fabricated statistics.</p><p>I have blogged about Sara Pascoe's book <b>Sex Power Money</b>. What I wrote is that I feel she has been very fair on the subject of pornography but unfair on the subject of prostitution. People might say why are you quoting a comedian, what would she know, but she has looked at the research.</p><p><i>page 198.</i> "Some heartening statistics: if porn encouraged rape, then we'd expect rape rates to rise along with the availability of the internet. The 'Porn Up, Rape Down' study conducted at Northwestern University School of Law found that the incidence of reported rape declined by 85 per cent in the United States after technology made porn freely available."</p><p><i>page 200.</i> "For comparison, twenty-eight thousand people completed the University of Chicago's General Social Survey between 1974 and 2010, and they found no connection between porn and sexism."</p><p><i>page 202.</i> "The truth is that while there are plenty of hairless pussies, there is a rainforest of unshavens and anyone who is watching porn regularly has seen everything. Some interesting evidence <i>against </i>the influence of porn on young people is that all recent surveys have reported that up to 90 per cent of men prefer their partner to have pubic hair."</p><p><i>page 204.</i> "The received wisdom is that porn is becoming alarmingly aggressive because easily bored consumers are demanding it. If this concerns you, the study 'Harder and Harder' published by the <i>Journal of Sex Research</i> in 2018 might put your mind at rest. Sociologists from McGill University in Canada studied the most popular videos on Pornhub, assessed the aggressive content in a random selection and found it wasn't true that viewers preferred aggressive content, or that the content was becoming more aggressive over time. They actually found, when measuring the length of time spent on visible aggression (biting, slapping, choking etc.) in these videos, that violence was a declining trend. And films where the female performer seemed to be enjoying herself were far more popular (in views and 'likes') than any in which women simulated or experienced distress."</p><p><i>page 224.</i> "All I've found in my own research is middle ground. And that's reassuring - there is loads of middle ground, with extremes at either end."</p><p><i>page 227.</i> "Hollywood releases about six hundred films per annum, so if you wanted to find out how many of those are violent (answer: loads) at least you could watch them all."</p><p>These are real researchers, not like biased Radical Feminist Melissa Farley. Real journalists (not Libby Purves) would look at real researchers (not Melissa Farley).</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhqcZ_b83Aiyw3hx0htqxeyFyNfFqLycWMIfX2pFus3GDjBjXnfOp6CwuT49K5IoedABWCLdMbw2Brmo7AoJUXMe1GlWiiIvuQScib-tnhP7_is9y7ASEyVqBgEvXytMTQnMC5gkOosvoEIQr0_nPMfu2EP0Og6cmY40GsTK10s7L1c7zh57okzhK41pg=s300" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="168" data-original-width="300" height="168" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhqcZ_b83Aiyw3hx0htqxeyFyNfFqLycWMIfX2pFus3GDjBjXnfOp6CwuT49K5IoedABWCLdMbw2Brmo7AoJUXMe1GlWiiIvuQScib-tnhP7_is9y7ASEyVqBgEvXytMTQnMC5gkOosvoEIQr0_nPMfu2EP0Og6cmY40GsTK10s7L1c7zh57okzhK41pg" width="300" /></a></div>Since posting the above I have listened to a radio programme about Mary Whitehouse. Many decades ago she campaigned against pornography. She was a Christian. What she didn't realise was that a fellow campaigner and fellow Christian was a very sick criminal sadist who was a preacher for many years. His name was John Smyth.<p></p><div>It just goes to show that violence can come from sexual repression. Celibacy should not be encouraged as an ideal. This is what worries me about both Christianity and Radical Feminism. Mary Whitehouse was worried about violence but she was looking in the wrong places. She was also a great fan of Jimmy Savile (although you wouldn't know that from reading what Louise Perry has written about Whitehouse and Savile: Whitehouse was an enabler of Savile and Smyth).</div><div><br /></div><div>I couldn't help liking Mary Whitehouse. At least she was honest. Not like the Christians and Radical Feminists now who use false statistics and tell lies about the lives of sex workers. She would not have pretended that she has the interests of sex workers at heart. There was no hidden agenda with her.</div><div><br /></div><div>Unlike Julie Bindel. She has recently said that Pornhub have a new porn category called 'Ukrainian girls and war rape videos'. Except they haven't. Somebody just made that up. It isn't true.</div><div><br /></div><div>It looks like the originator of this belief was trafficking activist Tom Farr. He tweeted something that was later put onto <a href="https://exoduscry.com/blog/general/ukrainian-women-vulnerable-to-trafficking-after-russian-invasion/">a page on the Exodus Cry site</a>. According to Wikipedia "<b>Exodus Cry is a Christian non-profit advocacy organization seeking the abolition of the legal commercial sex industry, including pornography, strip clubs, and sex work, as well as illegal sex trafficking. It has been described by the New York Daily News, TheWrap, and others as anti-LGBT, with ties to the anti-abortion movement</b>". I have stated many times on this blog that Radical Feminists share false statistics with Evangelical Christians.</div>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-48838657033944529442022-01-21T14:39:00.009+00:002023-04-01T16:27:19.804+01:00review of Radical Feminism by Finn Mackay<p>Finn Mackay has a lot to say about sex work in her book. Before we come on to that I want to tell you about her attitude to political lesbianism and celibacy. Radical Feminists often say that women should become lesbians: it doesn't mean having sex with women but it does mean definitely not having sex with men.</p><p>I've always suspected that this means that most of them don't have sex with anyone, they are celibate. They are trying to stop men and women from having sex together, and this is their main motivation in wanting to ban sex work. It's not that they are full of compassion for sex workers and wish to end their suffering.</p><p>Let us have a look at what is the clearest explanation of how political lesbianism usually means celibacy. Page 67.</p><blockquote style="border-image: none; border: medium; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: left;"><i>"Contrary to much rumour since, the paper was not suggesting that women should simply pursue same-sex sexual activity. It was about the political choice to dedicate one's life to women. In fact, in the paper, the Leeds Revolutionary Feminist Group clearly reassured heterosexuals that the lesbian bit is not compulsory, and that celibacy is always an option."</i></p></blockquote><p>The idea of heterosexual lesbians is an interesting one. Particularly as they are always telling us about reality and fiction. It is a fiction that a man can become a woman, it is not reality, so they tell us. Considering that most people are heterosexual, then most political lesbians would be celibate. Like the nuns of Ruhama they want to stop men and women fornicating. Ruhama campaigned for the Nordic model in Ireland.</p><p>The paper she is referring to is 'Political Lesbianism' by the Leeds Revolutionary Feminist Group which was led by Sheila Jeffreys. Jeffreys wrote <i>"all feminists can and should be lesbians. Our definition of a political lesbian is a woman-identified woman who does not fuck men. It does not mean compulsory sexual activity with women."</i> </p><p>Mackay explains that there are in fact four different types of feminist. The Radicals and the Revolutionaries, who are similar. Then there are the Liberals and the Socialists. I don't think this includes Third Wave feminists, who she doesn't have much time for.</p><p>Mackay quotes the opinion of an activist about sex work:<i> "It is a form of exploitation, slavery: and a very specific one. I don't like the red umbrellas one bit."</i> Page 207. Slaves don't get paid, neither do they choose their work or how they work. Sex work is the opposite of that: they are paid more than most people, and they do what they do in preference to the alternatives, having a great deal of autonomy in how they do it. Of course, there is modern slavery within sex work just as there is modern slavery within other types of work.</p><p>Mackay writes that so many feminists oppose prostitution because <i>"they are against the presumption of a male right to sexual access to women's bodies."</i> Page 208. I don't have a right to have sex with any sex worker, she can turn me down if I don't meet her criteria. Lots of sex work involves a masseur using her hands not just for massage but to bring her client to orgasm. Is that 'sexual access to women's bodies'? If not, then presumably she doesn't have a problem with it. Except of course she does because they always have a problem with sex between men and women, even in marriage.</p><p>She writes that under the Nordic model <i>'women are not criminalised'</i>. She also writes that <i>'Any such legal move must go alongside a large and dedicated financial investment in both harm-minimisation and exit services ... '</i> (page 210). She doesn't know that women are arrested in Nordic model countries for brothel keeping just like in Britain. Women are evicted from their homes and deported. The promised exit services don't materialise and the authorities don't like anyone giving them condoms.</p><p>She doesn't distinguish between legalisation and decriminalisation. She writes that the ECP (English Collective of Prostitutes) and the IUSW (International Union of Sex Workers) advocate the New Zealand model. The ECP <i>'favour small owner-operated ventures over larger big business brothel chains.'</i> Page 211. The big business chains are thriving in New Zealand though, she writes, and there was a planning application for a 15-storey brothel. Well, <a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/2022/08/new-zealand-decriminalisation-model.html">that's not true</a>.</p><p>She writes that legalisation would result in a bigger demand and more women involved in prostitution. She also writes that there will be an illegal sector. Page 212. However, in New Zealand there was not an expansion of prostitution after decriminalisation.</p><p>There is no reason why exit services should not still exist under decriminalisation. If a factory worker wants to retrain to become an office worker they should be helped to do that. If a sex worker wants to retrain they should be helped too. They should be offered advice about debt, benefits and housing. For the minority who take drugs they should be offered rehab.</p><p>A sex worker is not a commodity. She is not like a bale of cotton that I can take home with me and later sell. She is offering a service, like millions of other people.</p><p>There is no reason why sex work needs to be more dangerous than other forms of work. It isn't true that <i>'<a href="http://eminism.org/blog/entry/62">the average age of entry into prostitution worldwide estimated at around only 14 years old.</a>'</i> Page 211. There is no credible evidence that the Nordic model reduces the amount of prostitution or the number of murders of prostitutes.</p><p>She goes on to write about 'markedly gendered' and 'structural inequalities' as if these phrases mean anything. They 'cannot be overlooked' she writes, without spelling out precisely what she means.</p><p>Below I have quoted from her book and replied to what she has written:-</p><p>Page 217. <i>"To put it bluntly, being a builder does not involve making one's body sexually available to one's employers; the same is true of journalists, academics, waiters etc."</i></p><p>She is trying here to say that sex work is different from any other type of work. The only thing that she can come up with is that sex work has distinguishing characteristics. All types of work have their own distinguishing characteristics though. Working in an undertakers is the only work where you have to handle dead bodies: that doesn't mean that in essence it is not work.</p><p>Page 217. <i>"But the debate around prostitution cannot and should not be shut down by turning to the refrain that all work is like prostitution - because it patently is not; and the great majority of people understand this."</i></p><p>In what way is all work not like prostitution, or prostitution not like all work? People have customers, they negotiate a price for a service. They choose their form of work by looking at how much it pays, how long it takes to earn money, and what it is required for them to do. I can see how celibates will never be able to accept this.</p><p>Page 220. <i>"No feminist I know is arguing for those in prostitution to be criminalised."</i></p><p>She obviously hasn't read the web site of Nordic Model Now! They say quite clearly that they do not want the repeal of the law that criminalises women for running a brothel. This is the main law used to arrest women in prostitution. That law always stays in place when a country adopts the Nordic model. There is in addition the law that gets sex workers evicted from their homes.</p><p>Page 220. <i>"It would be nonsensical to suggest that all those people - women, young people, men - earning an income through prostitution are forced or coerced in the bluntest sense. However, the fact that there are probably some people successfully navigating the 'sex industry' without any negative experiences, for both the love and the money of it, should not negate the fact that research suggests this is far from the experience of the majority."</i></p><p>There is no evidence that most sex workers are coerced, either in Britain or around the world. Some sex workers have had a negative experience. That is the same as in other types of work. Sex workers can minimise these experiences by working together. Another way is to end up with a limited number of regular clients. Some sex workers only see men that they have seen before, they don't have to advertise and they can refuse to see a man they don't like. When police raid a flat they arrest women who work together and confiscate their phones thus disrupting safe activity. </p><p>Page 221.<i> "It is usually acceptable to say that one is against trafficking, although some sex-industry lobby groups do try to suggest that it is extremely rare and they prefer to talk about 'migration for sex work'. Indeed reliable statistics are hard to find when dealing with an illegal trade where people are hidden or hiding and I do not deny that some government attempts at statistics can never be anything else than guesses."</i></p><p>There is a reason why experts on the subject of trafficking say it is rare and instead talk about 'migration for sex work'. Before George W Bush became president the word 'trafficking' had to by definition mean coercion or deception. He put Evangelical Christians in positions of authority and they decided to change the definition. They didn't want to distinguish between voluntary and involuntary sex work.</p><p>The UK decided to do the same. The rest of the world didn't. So it's not surprising that experts don't use the US and UK definition and instead stick to the Geneva Protocol. Below I quote two paragraphs from a recent Daily Mail article by Julie Bindel:-</p><blockquote style="border-image: none; border: medium; margin: 0px 0px 0px 40px; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><p><i>"A few years ago, I attended a conference in Vienna about prostitution. I was one of only four delegates out of 185 who sat on a panel declaring we were troubled by the vile trade at all. The others held the view that all aspects of the sex industry should be decriminalised."</i></p><p><i>"Progress on the issue has been slow in recent years, however — at least in part because the language around prostitution has been unhelpfully sanitised. The trade in women has been cleaned up as ‘sex work'. Pimps are often described as ‘managers' and, especially within academia, the trafficking of women into prostitution has been rewritten as ‘migration for sex work'."</i></p></blockquote><p>We should listen to what the academics say, not Radical/Revolutionary Feminists such as Finn Mackay or Julie Bindel.</p><p>Page 222. <i>"it is not surprising then that global research finds that around 90 per cent of those in it would leave if they had the economic freedom to do so (Farley et al 2003)."</i></p><p>The 'global research' she mentions is not lots of researchers around the world. It all comes from Melissa Farley who is a Radical Feminist. I have dealt with this particular piece of research <a href="https://betedenuit.blogspot.com/2020/08/another-false-statistic.html">here</a>.</p><p>Page 223.<i> "It is time to envision a society, and a world, without prostitution. This may sound idealistic, but the theory matters, the direction of travel matters, the aspiration matters, because if we can't envision such a society, then we cannot even begin to build it."</i></p><p>Page 224. <i>"This is not natural, it is not inevitable, and it can be reduced, maybe ended; at the very least it can be challenged, rather than glamourised, normalised and condoned.</i></p><p><i>The real question about prostitution is the question of men's rights and, whether we as a society believe that men have the right to buy and sell women's bodies or whether they do not."</i></p><p>Page 224. <i>"Imagine if every country stood up and said that this is not acceptable, as Sweden has done, stood up and said that every woman is worth more than what some man will pay for her and that we will criminalise rather than condone men who assume the right to buy the body of another human being."</i></p><p>There is no reason to believe that the Nordic model reduces the amount of prostitution. They have manipulated the statistics to make it appear so. The official report into the Northern Ireland law says that there has been an increase. The statistics from Sweden show an increase in the proportion of Swedish men who are active sex buyers and an increase in the proportion of Swedish women who have sold sex at some time in their life. They also show a decrease in the proportion of Swedish men who have bought sex at some time in their life, the widely reported drop from 13% to 8%, followed by an increase.</p><p>If it were possible to end prostitution, that would be one thing. But to burden sex workers and make their lives more difficult with no end in sight is not something we should contemplate.</p><p>I have never bought a woman's body. Trying to link it to slavery doesn't make any sense. I don't believe that women are only good for sex - only worth 'what some man will pay for her'. This explains more about why punters are hated - people are being told that we buy women and that we think that women have no value apart from sex. This kind of hatred can only come from a repressed sexuality.</p><p>If I go to see a doctor, and it turns out to be a female doctor, do you think that I would say 'I don't want to see <i>you</i>, you're a woman, you're only good for sex'? Of course not. I have respect for women, and I have respect for sex workers.</p><p>Page 225. <i>"This is despite the changes in the Policing and Crime Act 2009 under the last Labour government, which were indeed a step forward, for the first time directing the eyes of the law onto those who fuel prostitution - punters. This victory was a result of the tireless campaigning by women's groups, led by the feminist, abolitionist 'Demand Change' campaign."</i></p><p>She must be referring to the law that can criminalise a man if he pays for sex with a woman who has been coerced or deceived, even if he didn't know. In some parts of the country no man has been convicted. The law was based on a false idea that most women in prostitution are coerced or deceived. It's not surprising that celibates like Finn Mackay believe that.</p><p>According to <a href="https://eprints.lancs.ac.uk/id/eprint/71180/2/s14_article_final_.pdf">this study</a> "<i>section 14 had not been used by the majority (81%) of police forces across England and Wales</i>". According to MP <a href="https://publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201415/cmhansrd/cm141104/debtext/141104-0004.htm">Fiona Mactaggart</a> "<i>In the first year of that being law there were 49 prosecutions—I was a bit disappointed because I did not think that was very many—with the men being found guilty in 43 cases. The following year there were 17 prosecutions, with 12 guilty verdicts, and the year after there were nine prosecutions, with six guilty verdicts</i>".</p><p>So it's hardly some kind of great victory for the prohibitionists. They obviously thought that it was going to be their foot in the door. However, they are just wasting everybody's time. We would have to be mad to introduce the Nordic model in Britain.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh8_LdPzdqVbFw5byTlujYCYdZSGf2DFo9TSK1oUsKZFcnsQkArV_W9K95yDuoA45tp-018EzeFFCk2gV1NIKtBDX22jGBECbS_qLohjX-Bfrms4Hi7IPKwAV4gFygbAoNbDkffVViYXq5yhTJ2-9C64RT7HiyEFRGiuAwAUVJPOQAGn8glcWTiWY_0NQ=s614" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="614" data-original-width="400" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh8_LdPzdqVbFw5byTlujYCYdZSGf2DFo9TSK1oUsKZFcnsQkArV_W9K95yDuoA45tp-018EzeFFCk2gV1NIKtBDX22jGBECbS_qLohjX-Bfrms4Hi7IPKwAV4gFygbAoNbDkffVViYXq5yhTJ2-9C64RT7HiyEFRGiuAwAUVJPOQAGn8glcWTiWY_0NQ=s320" width="208" /></a></div><br /><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8828820534014446992.post-26562938762977451372021-12-30T14:07:00.001+00:002021-12-31T15:52:10.278+00:00my review of the year 2021<p>I have been going to the brothel in Liverpool called Angel Lodge. I saw Katy, Taylor, Alicia and Lucia once each, but I saw Megan 3 times. She is the sort of big blonde that I like and she lets me use my ultrathin condoms. I have only been to Christys once this year.</p><p>I went to Manchester once this year, but it's not as good as it was. Cosmopolitan is still good though.</p><p>In the summer I found myself near Queensferry in Wales. I remembered that there is a brothel there. I found the number through a Google search on my mobile. When I went there I was pleasantly surprised. It's a nice place (called Dollys) and the sex worker there was lovely. I thought I was onto a good thing.</p><p>Pippa is very talkative and seems to want to please. She is a big blonde like Megan and Jodie. She is prettier though, and I liked the way she has her hair up. The first time I saw her she said I can bring thin condoms next time. I saw her three Mondays in a row.</p><p>Although she seems to want to please, she didn't seem to want to do the one thing that I want. I like to get on top of a woman and shag her till I come. She let me shag her for a while but then wanted to do something else. So I didn't orgasm with Pippa.</p><p>The second two times I saw Pippa I went afterwards to another brothel in Wales. Temptations in Flint. These two brothels are not difficult to get to by bus from Chester. At Temptations I shagged Lola. She didn't talk much, didn't seem to want to please me, but was quite happy for me to get on top of her and shag her till I came. Even though I didn't ask to use my thin condoms with Lola, I came both times with her.</p><p>There is a strange brothel in Wallasey called Jays. If you go there on a Wednesday there are two women there. One of them is an old woman called Celia but also called Sharon. The other is Keira and I think she has a different name too. Keira looks middle aged but is probably elderly too: she looks as if she has had some cosmetic surgery. Celia and Keira work together. If you want both of them to suck your cock, at the same time, you can have that. Without a condom if you pay both of them an extra £10.</p><p>I saw them twice this year. The second time was very odd. Celia was her usual helpful self but Keira was preoccupied. She stood in the same room as us but looked out the window, commenting about a man who would be returning soon. I think there is a pimp here who is in the room above and watches through the mirrors on the ceiling. I asked them to turn a light on, they told me they were unable to comply, but later the light came on by itself. I'm not going to go there again.</p><p>Talking about old women, I saw Diane and Jackie in Chester. Diane has a flat near the racecourse and Jackie uses a friend's house in Bache near the hospital. I won't be going to see either of them again either. All of the women that I have mentioned so far in this post have been English, or possibly Welsh. I say this because some people believe that the majority of women in brothels are Romanian. "<i>Leicestershire police reported that 86% of the women in brothels they visited were Romanian</i>". Not near me.</p><p>I will be going to Rock Ferry Thai Massage again though. I saw a lovely woman called Jasmine in January. I saw a delightful young woman called Joy twice recently. I would have seen her a third time but I was told she'd gone. To Manchester. They are there for a couple of weeks then they go to work somewhere else. Then they come back again.</p><p>There is another Thai woman who works nearby. Her name is Yaya. She doesn't move to different places. She is pretty and speaks English very well and seems educated. She shares the flat with another Thai girl who only does massage with hand relief. Her name is Maeya.</p><p>Maeya only does hand relief. Yaya does full sex but doesn't move to different parts of the country. Joy and the other women at Rock Ferry Thai Massage do full sex and move around. That will be through their own choices, how much money they wish to make and what they are prepared to do for it.</p><p>Usually at Thai massage places you don't get full sex. At Rock Ferry Thai Massage you do though. Another place I have been to is Sakura in Liverpool. You don't get full sex there (not usually) but you do get more than just a massage with hand relief. With some of the women at Sakura. I've been there four times this year, but I don't think I will return. Another Chinese place is the newly opened Pink Peony.</p><p>So I won't be seeing any old women again. You may wonder why I ever did but some of them are attractive. I don't think I will be going to Wales again, why bother when I can get what I want closer to home? I don't even need to go into Liverpool. My favourite two women this year have been Jasmine and Joy from Rock Ferry Thai Massage. I hope to see both of them again.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgm6zM1qtcjXH7gfWaoqwwnsRvNQawU774qnNC2jlhSldGZg4E6zuBpV9H7HDixgrp_HjE9t9kEY_c6h9MnvRmVw4bl2D0bXCLi4VgAR-Z5CYI9REcmMvpj5FFzyzLhanvWt0B2lFO7G6ftGbFL5fc5uZ-X7Ew4g6tHWPxDPAQS8CTOOTgYVbZn27RUXg=s380" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="350" data-original-width="380" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgm6zM1qtcjXH7gfWaoqwwnsRvNQawU774qnNC2jlhSldGZg4E6zuBpV9H7HDixgrp_HjE9t9kEY_c6h9MnvRmVw4bl2D0bXCLi4VgAR-Z5CYI9REcmMvpj5FFzyzLhanvWt0B2lFO7G6ftGbFL5fc5uZ-X7Ew4g6tHWPxDPAQS8CTOOTgYVbZn27RUXg=s16000" /></a></div><br /><p></p>Bête de Nuithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03742878105695808899noreply@blogger.com0