white male privilege

You often hear the phrase 'white male privilege'. I lived in a council block of flats for 10 years and another one for 14 years and I met many white males but they were among the least privileged people in society. I had a crack addict living above me for a while and he certainly didn't have a privileged life.
I treat people as individuals. I don't assume anyone to have been privileged just because of their colour or gender. Even men from a upper class background I don't assume to have been privileged. I have been reading about the childhood of the Queen's father, King George VI. As an infant he suffered abuse at the hands of his nanny, Mary Peters. His elder brother David, who became King Edward VIII, also suffered and was found to be covered in bruises. This is what one site says about how Mary Peters treated Bertie, as King George had been known.
"Bertie she hated. She saw him as an intruder on the great thing she had going with her fantasy son. So she just left him to rot. She would throw him in the crib, and ignore him. She never fed him properly. Bertie would starve for days, and then she would over feed him so he got sick. Psychonanny seemed to enjoy watching Bertie suffer as much as she enjoyed “loving” David. Bertie had digestive problems for the rest of his life because of psychonanny. Not only that, but it seems she refused to touch him, hug him, or interact with him at all, which is a really unhealthy thing to do to a baby."
As adults David and Bertie had their problems, as did their brother George, Duke of Kent, who became a drug addict. He was addicted to cocaine and morphine. The abuse of children by nannies in the upper classes was common. Another problem was sending children away to boarding school at a young age. Often a child would bond with his or her nanny or aya and then there could be a traumatic separation from their mother-figure.
You could say that these three brothers were privileged, but I wouldn't want to have lived their lives.
Some feminists don't accept trans women because they think that they have lived a life of male privilege before their transition and therefore don't understand what it is like to be female. They have not grown up female in a patriarchal society. I don't believe this because someone who has this issue isn't privileged. Trans women and gay men have often had a difficult time in our society.
Prostitution is regarded as an issue of white male privilege. If a man in a white van who is in debt visits a sex worker from the same class as him and she's got thousands of pounds in the bank that's not about privilege. Usually sex workers have more money saved than the men who visit them. Even if you think of the Duke of Westminster getting Eastern European escorts to come to his flat, that's no more about privilege than if he employed one of them as a nanny or a housekeeper.
People assume that men are predators and women are victims. Sometimes it is the man who is the victim and yet people often can't recognize that. I was listening to a late night radio programme where the guest was a woman who was one of America's top financial experts, someone who was an advisor to the government. They talked about business matters, then towards the end of the interview the presenters asked her if she had ever experienced sexual harrassment in the workplace.
She had to think for a second then she said there had been a colleague of hers who had said to her 'Would you like to come back to my room?' It must have been on a residential conference or something. She freaked out and got him sacked from his job. She told her employers that they would be creating an environment hostile to women if they employed him. She persued a vendetta against him and gleefully stated that over the years she must have cost him more than a million dollars.
There is a video on YouTube where a woman makes the same accusation against the scientist Richard Dawkins. Bear in mind that in neither case was the man the woman's boss.
If a woman wants to go back to a man's room she can say yes. If she doesn't want to go back to his room she can say no. It isn't necessarily a sexual thing, and even if it is it isn't necessarily about promiscuity. Often relationships and even marriages can begin between colleagues by a woman agreeing to go back to a man's room. A woman on holiday can enjoy having sex with a man or more than one man that she has only recently met. There's nothing wrong with that.
You might say this is what women have to put up with continually and they're not going to put up with it anymore. However, the worst thing that has happened to this woman is that a man said 'Would you like to come back to my room?'. It happened once, and it was trivial. She could just have said no, or no thank you. He wasn't forcing her to do anything, or putting pressure on her. What was not trivial is what she did to him. He is the victim, not her.
You have to ask who is the one doing the hating.
I don't know if she had a deep fear of sex. That's quite common, especially with people who were raised in religious families. They hate or fear that which they desire most, without knowledge of this desire. It is unconscious.
It could be that she hates the idea of a woman going back to a man's room and what they get up to. She wants it to stop, and what better way to do that is to make men afraid to say anything. Or it could be that she just hates men. Or it could be that she's a troublemaker. She likes to upset people, and if she knows that she can do this while still projecting victim status then she will do it.
You might say that men have been abusing women for so long that maybe men need to see what it's like for a change. Two wrongs don't make a right. For every Harvey Weinstein there are many women like this one, who destroy someone's career and life. For every Harvey Weinstein there is someone like Souad Faress who made a completely false accusations of sexual assault against a man at a railway station.
False accusations of sexual assault are rare, we are told. The statistics seem to be about 5% which seems like a lot to me. This statistic must be based on women where it has been proven that they have lied: they have been successfully prosecuted for lying. However, as far as I know no attempt was made to prosecute Souad Faress even though we can be 100% sure that she tried to wreck a man's life by telling lies. So women like her aren't showing up in the statistics.
I have heard it said 'Why would any woman put herself through the trauma of going to the police and the trial if she hadn't been raped or assaulted?' I heard that on presenter Jane Garvey's show. Maybe she should invite Souad Faress on her show and ask her. If a woman hasn't been raped or assaulted then going to the police isn't going to be traumatic as it would be to a woman who has.

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